I pray for those who have been brokenhearted and for those who have broken hearts along the way because deep within they are broken themselves, and find comfort to fill that void in their lives by hurting others and not allowing themselves to fully heal. Father may you please meet them at their time of need to assure them that change will come and better is on its way. So help us all Father.
Some if not most of us have been in different relationship duration's, different reasons for breaking up and different lessons learnt. When we were younger we all probably had lists of who we wanted our ideal partner to be whether tall, rich, has a car… The list is endless and YES I SAID WHEN WE WERE YOUNGER, for those it relates to.
We were so young and blinded by the society’s way of thinking and what the person had to show off with, rather than who they were. We were for the idea of being in a relationship but not always for the right reasons, we didn’t think about our faith and walks with the Most High well not as strong as we are now.
But we were young and clouded with thoughts, leading us away from approaching relationships the right way. If we approached them in the right way and were spirit led to use wisdom and act on prayer, a lot could have been avoided. The fact that they have ended says a lot about our ways back then, in darkness and led astray.
Our generation is messed up, this is what I always say reason being many take pride in the wrong things, their pride is their downfall and they never learn and others just refuse to change. As much as it hurts to get cheated on over again it is even more frustrating when people think it’s okay to do so, its like they have various reasons for accepting it. They say their partner pushed them to it, they were weak, and the arguments in their relationship was too much the list is endless.
Galatians 5:19-21 ‘Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envying, murders, drunkenness, revelling, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God
But when you know something is wrong you don’t do it regardless. There is nothing to be proud of when you are someone’s ‘side piece’ there is nothing about flaunting being unfaithful and with all this you will always attract and end up with the wrong ones, because you show yourself as easy and not someone worth working hard for. You take joy in easy ways because all your life that’s what has come your way and you haven’t had to work for it. Causing unfaithfulness, unworthiness, shame, regrets, pain, misery and hopelessness.
Social media can be used for good and also for bad, I say this because nowadays when ‘couples’ have arguments and or fall out for some time they go to social media to get a false sense of belonging and approval of their actions. Its even more dangerous because it is from the wider society of people behind phones and laptops, ipads etc who don’t know them personally and to be honest, not everyone who talks to you especially on social media have your interest at heart.
Some thrive on the pain of others and like to see people unhappy. It is sad but happens daily that is why when you have issues, don’t just think you can go to anyone go to The Most High in prayer and He will surely help you and see you through with genuine love, support and comfort.
It is sad how far some will go to make it known that they are in a relationship meanwhile that person is not for them and they are punishing themselves like that to keep a good reputation and the centre of attention. I mentioned earlier that some will be with someone for the wrong reasons and or have a list of the ideal man or woman they want. These are not traits that were left in the younger years for some because even up until now, people have ulterior motives and material things that drive them to get with someone. Again it is that sense of self-want, self-happiness and acceptance, but filling the void the wrong way, because then when it all ends badly they blame the whole gender for the mistakes they equally made with a few of the opposite sex.
As if that wasn’t bad enough then comes ‘friends with benefits’ you don’t want commitment or to be with them (really you can’t be faithful and don’t want to put in effort to build on something worthwhile, that will last longer than all those people you are involved with) so you take the easy way and the pleasure from that makes you lose yourself in dark hole of sin.
Sadly what many do not realise is that it is all fun and games to mess around but each time you do, are contracting evil spirits in you, it then makes your inner self unclean. Walking around with many spirits in you is toxic, causing more damage to the soul in the short term to long term.
Most are fast to settle for less and have fun regardless because to them they have painted this picture in their minds of how ‘long and stressful’ putting work into something special is. Which is wrong because it is when you take the easy way out that it gets stressful and weak on the soul. ‘I cant be with you unless I test you out’ and with that it is not get to know you and see how it goes, but rather lets have sexual encounters because I need to know you are able to do your job in that department, as open as this is, it is what makes a lot of people turn easy because they are on the hunt to have someone please them. But the wrong way and so lose their self-worth, respect, self-love and all morals and values go out of the window.
1 Corinthians 6: 9-11
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Yeshua, and by the Spirit of our God.
When I look at some of the people’s relationships and hear how others talk about relationships there are many red flags that many fail to recognise especially at this age. Trust, unity, love, faithfulness, walking with The Most High together, and experiencing the true essence of courting ways is what many lack. Rather darkness has consumed the lives of many to use and abuse the term relationships because they haven’t learnt from experiences how to treat someone well and genuinely love them.
2 Corinthians 6:14
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
It is sad how these people treat others, but I pray they will learn before it really is too late. Don’t get me wrong there are those in good relationships out there, who have not let their past define them, have prayed for who they are with today and despite the temptations out there have fought to overcome them in unity and love because they have built their foundation with The Most High, the word, prayer and faith. As we all know there are many temptations around, and being in a relationship celebrating purity is frowned upon rather the easy ways and settling is what is more common. Weird right???
But I believe that change will come and all that will be a thing of the past for many who fall short of worthy living. With all this said, cohabiting is also an act that some if not most participate in to ‘see if they are right for each other before they marry’ this too brings about red flags because any action built on sin and what is not encouraged in the word will not end well unless it is done the right way. I say this because cohabiting are two people living together who in most cases are not married. I will look at it from the perspective of someone who is strong in their walk and doesn’t encourage cohabiting.
I say this because with that environment they may fall into temptation and end up sleeping together and at times there are probably those who live together and are unequally yoked. There may be one who is more keen on the other than the other being keen on them and so to make them happy, they will follow the lead and that will end up in them distancing themselves from the Most High. Because you cannot be with someone entertaining what you know is not right and then say you are following The Most high.
If really they are for you they won’t want to cohabit, they will pray for you, love you The Most High’s way, read the word with you and be packaged to lead you (for the men reading this) or to support and love you (to the women reading this.) When The Most High brings two people together He doesn’t say go and live together first to test each other and then marry, He knows us better than we know ourselves and so will not give you someone you will be disappointed by, but rather someone who can encourage and uplift you and motivate you. Who He brings together will never fall into the wrong hands.
I feel cohabiting clashes with our walk with The Most High to be honest, I say that because when you are both living together temptation will always come and some will overcome some wont. You don’t need to get to know someone by choosing to live with them because we don’t know tomorrow, you move in one week and then some time later your expectations get neglected and you see things about the person that makes you realise why they aren’t even for you and or being in your own space make it harder for the relationship to flourish, because of the high expectations you had and was let down.
Here is a reminder of the the downfall to sexual immorality.
1 Corinthians 6:18 ‘Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.’
You are punishing yourselves by letting darkness in, your body is a temple not there to let anyone have their way with you. You wouldn’t want to live in a dirty house so how can you expect the Most High to dwell within you when you let in evil spirits and distance yourself from Him due to what you are too weak to handle alone??
It is a shame that this generation is messed up, but change will come and relationships will last longer and be valued in the eyes of not only themselves, but those around them to encourage and motivate many out there. To also want to do things the right way and end with the right one, not to settle but be a true example of a worthy woman and the men that of a wise, loving, motivating leaders.
Bless you all