CHILDHOOD HURTS - ARE YOU REALLY DELIVERED?

     Hey everyone

Trust you are all well

Rev 21:4 ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever.” We can look forward to this, look to God in everything and get your healing to progress and not stay bound.

Today we will be talking about childhood hurts, this is something that I myself had been on a journey on once upon a time, to learn about and heal from. Because remember in life everything that we do, think or feel, most times have a root that can be linked to our past, going as far as childhood and if it is not dealt with can affect us in a major way in different friendships, relationship and with family too.

Childhood hurts for many could involve abuse – physical, mental, emotional you name it, lack of family units, bullying, self image issues, not feeling good enough etc.

The foundations that we have known, which have shaped our minds and actions to some extent, can be tainted and unhealthy. For so long that baggage of the past has then been on many people’s shoulders and the question one must ask is “are you really delivered?” Have you really let God in to deal with deeper issues of self you either don’t think about or have suppressed it for so long. To be delivered from what others did to you, as well as receiving the inner healing you so desperately need to be made whole and set free and not repeating life in cycles.

As a qualified counsellor the journey to this point has taught me so much more about people’s behaviour, their speech, feelings and view points on things. You find that a lot of people have deep wounds from parents and people from their past that have done them wrong and they have lived in the hurt for so long that they no longer know or even recognise who they are.

One thing I want to say and standby is that the moment you take your hurts to God, repent, seek forgiveness as well as forgive those who wronged you, will bring you healing, growth and a healthier mindset that no one can take the credit for. But if you do not take the steps to speak up and do what is right for you, you’ll find that you will keep staying and repeating in disappointments, self-sabotage, grudges, anger and setbacks. Don’t ever let the things of old and what people have done to you affect you so much that you lose your peace, guidance, joy and happiness.

This is not to justify or water down what you have been through, not at all. But to get you to sit up and let this post push buttons that need to be pushed and lead you back to our Father for your healing.

Playing the victim never gets anyone anywhere, it only keeps you stagnant wanting sympathy and when that is not shown you react and think everyone is against you. No special one- that is toxic living and you need to receive the deliverance that will take you from where you are now to a better, more fulfilling place in Christ.

This topic has been heavy on my heart for while, probably more now than before because I counsel people and see and feel the pain when they share things.

Let this be a starting point to get you thinking and take all hurts back to God and if you believe you are okay, still go back to God and ask Him to show you your heart and if here is anything you need to let go of.

Praying for you all and pray that this post will convict you and get you closer to Abba Father to help you heal and move forward in a healthier way.

 

Loving you in prayer

BE BLESSED AND ENCOURAGED

SPEAK SOON

DONT WORRY (PART TWO)

MATTHEW 6:28-34

28 “And why worry about your clothing? Look at the lilies of the field and how they grow. They don’t work or make their clothing,  

We worry about minor things and big things, whilst the word is assuring us that the fields grow and produce harvest in set times and it’s not like they can work to make it grow itself, they aren’t humans but are taken care of by humans and these same humans - you and I shouldn’t need to worry about what we wear because God will never make us go without, but will always make sure we have in abundance and are taken care of. That is beyond satisfying and assuring and a truth we must all hold onto. So as hard as it may be take the step not let worry consume you any longer – pray and release all to God to help you.

29 yet Solomon in all his glory was not dressed as beautifully as they are. 30 And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will certainly care for you. Why do you have so little faith?

God cares for us more than we could ever imagine and so when things try to consume us and shake our faith, we can have the tendency to forget all this and act out the worry in our actions and how we treat others. But when we worry for tomorrow and question His care and love we are also showing that we have little faith in Him to perform what He said He will do.

31 “So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ 32 These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs.

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The word is saying to not worry about the external factors, but that God has it all under control. How beautiful it is to know that He assures us and also shows us the way to go.

We have Him and unbelievers don’t, so when they complain and question life, we shouldn’t entertain that way of living too and questions things because of who our Heavenly Father is. To supply all our needs according to His riches in glory and the beauty is He knows it all, there is nothing hidden from Him. All that we need He provides.

Unbelievers have negative thoughts and never ending questions and doubt in their circumstances, the moment we think and act like them we are doubting God and taking Him away from the circumstance and encouraging room to sin and do things the short cut way.

33 Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

34 “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.

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The requirement is to seek the kingdom of God first and all other things that we need will be added unto us, He has us so we shouldn’t worry or question, let your faith rise up and all negative thoughts be scattered. We must follow this with faith and trusting that God has not left us, knows what we need and also says clearly what to seek, and that is not what the unbelievers seek. We should be able to put God first in all we do, in our thoughts, actions, character, day to day – in everything.

Material things and people are all temporary and shouldn’t be made to be priority in our lives, we ought to put God first always and everything else secondary. We can plan things out and be productive, but then to worry and doubt is to waste precious, valuable time.

But we shouldn’t be so consumed in planning to block out the worry, but should rather address it because then that becomes a problem and can interfere with you and God. Don’t let what you focus on and worry about for the next day; affect you in the moment with God. Embrace the moment and don’t rush ahead, He has you and knows what you need.

  

POINTERS FOR WORRY-

-      PRAY OVER IT AND TAKE STEPS TO OVERCOME IT DAILY

-      Know what the word of God says about you and His promises

-      Do a study on worry and break them down into prayer points

-      Don’t worry over the future, pray over it and leave it to God

-      Build up your faith and let His peace that surpasses all understanding calm you

-      Live in the now and have faith for tomorrow, not worry.

-      Make a list of what you worry over and take it to God

 

Be blessed and encourage

DO NOT WORRY (PART ONE)

Dear Father,

Thank you for saving us, loving us, protecting us, thank you for all that you have done in our lives up until now. Your peace that surpasses all understanding, comforts me in times of trials and tribulations to know that it is but for a moment. Every tough time isn’t permanent and the same way it has a beginning is the same way it will have an end. I am assured in your presence and will continue on this journey, casting all my cares upon you because you care for us. In your mighty name we pray. Amen

 

‘DONT LET WORRY OR FEAR, ROB YOU OFF THE GREATNESS IN YOU.’ GOD

Today I will be discussing in this two part series on worry. Many of us can relate to this as times get hard, things don’t go to plan and we can find ourselves worrying for what is ahead, if the current is not going to plan. Forgetting that God has gone ahead of us and has everything under control, we shouldn’t let the things of this world and the flesh dictates to us what to do and how to do it. We must rise up speak to those circumstances and command it to bow, and refuse to let it take our peace.

 

So what is worry in its simplest form-

‘To think about problems or unpleasant things that might happen in a way that makes you feel unhappy and frightened. To make someone feel unhappy and frightened because of problems or unpleasant things that might happen.’

 

This definition clearly states the affect of worry, in a negative way, to make you come up with scenarios that may never happen, to make you feel unhappy and when unhappy you cannot produce your best because you are operating from a place of fear and worry. As humans we will worry, that is why Yeshua taught about this in the bible. It was a big enough deal to address to us and why we shouldn’t worry.

We shouldn’t allow worry dictate to us, or make us act hastily to what is before us. We must know that when worry comes we pray over it and ask for God to intervene, rather than act on and make decisions based on worry.

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I will be using Matthew 6:25-34 as my point of reference in terms of worry.  

MATTHEW 6:25-27

In this part of Matthew 6 Yeshua was teaching about worry. That in itself shows us that He knew though we were believers, things in life would happen that would cause us to panic and worry. So His teaching was to redirect our ways to know how to manage the worry when it comes, but not to dwell in it.

As I mentioned before, as imperfect human beings, worry will happen but the word tells us to not become drained by thinking and worrying about our everyday lives. Because God has made sure ahead of time that we will be covered, provided for and watched over.

Food, drink, what we wear all these things shouldn’t be our focus of worry. But to be encouraged to know that our God, who created us, has everything under control and will supply all our needs according to His riches in glory. (And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus – Phil 4:19).

Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing?’ To me when I read this particular question, I saw it as one of those rhetorical questions that don’t need an answer, but a reflective response to ensure that one has thought and meditated on this enough to know that most of the time, the things we think and dwell on do not need to be thought off and worried over. Because life is more than those things and it is what you don’t see that is permanent.

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 ‘Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them.’

I wondered why God would link this to birds; this goes to show that every detail God has it covered, from living things to things we see around for daily use, everything is covered in His plans. The birds aren’t like humans to navigate and act like we do in all manner of life, from food to storage etc. But our Father makes provision for them to eat, so why must we question and worry what we eat and day to day?

Don’t let what you see make your faith waiver in God or cause you to be negative, because He is forever in control and not just in good but on the bad days too. There is always something to learn and take away from all this, but it is never to dwell in worry and think that is okay because worrying won’t change anything.

And aren’t you far more valuable to him than they are? Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?

God sees as more valuable and precious in His sight, and so when we know all the above and pray with it, there should be a shift that takes place, to say no to worry and yes to trusting by faith because once God has said it He will surely do it. Why then must we take on the baggage of worrying about something God already knows? and has gone ahead of us to take care of it? We need to be intimate in the word and pray to have the faith and renewed mind to combat what comes our way, in the form of worry and fear, because those are not of God. They are distractions to remove your focus from God to the situation.

 

Don’t let fear rob you of your joy

Part two to follow...  

Be blessed

THE IMPORTANCE OF COMMUNICATION

THE IMPORTANCE OF COMMUNICATION…

Dear Father,

We thank you for being our Father, loving, forgiving and always there for us to be able to call on in all that we go through. Father I pray that in all things we will learn to go to you first, and not get distracted by the things of this world or others, may we never be led astray by our thoughts and in all things prayer and the word will always be first and never last. Thank you Father for all you do for us, Monday to Sunday, 24 hours a day you are there for us always, you have not gone on leave and love us all the same. Thank you Father in your name we pray. Amen.

Learn to delve deeper to get to the root of why you are the way you are, the effect of the past is very important, to not let it affect your ways, going back to old ways and staying in those bad habits.

God has shown me the importance of communication with others and why as relational beings we need to be able to do so, though uncomfortable and hard to take in- reason why I say this is because before I had the mentality that if you don’t call me I won’t call you, if you don’t reach out to meet up I won’t. In the past I have always been the one to reach out regardless and when I wasn’t always getting it back, it hurt and I stopped doing it and just lived with the mentality to put me first and save my time. So when God was showing me this it was difficult to hear as I have always been one way as opposed to reaching out to others whether they do it first or not.

Having that mentality in the past was quite tough to shake off for a while, God just instructed me to not do any work but just to seek Him, refocus and get direction. The main thing He wanted me to understand is that communication is key in the kingdom but many of us do not communicate well and division occurs. Because of the cliques formed many are used to those they are close to and not others outside of that clique, so they stay knowing that once they are close to those people they are comfortable with, that they do not feel the need to interact with others.

 God went on to help me understand that when He called me into ministry one of the things I needed to do more of is to show love and support and to communicate with people better. I can’t make it about me all the time. Everyone is going through something and many are battling in secret, so a simple call, text or meet up goes a long way to help a sister or brother in Christ. The moment we became born again all our personal desires and self-ways had to part from us, we no longer made it about us but about those we are called to serve. So it is selfish of me to think about myself and be kept bound by the past experiences.

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 QUESTIONS TO REFLECT ON….

HOW WOULD YOU RATE YOUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS WITH THOSE AROUND YOU?

ARE YOU HAPPY WITH HOW YOU COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS?

DO YOU PRAY OVER THIS AREA AS MUCH AS OTHER AREAS?

 Was speaking to a dear sister of mine about this area a while ago and all she said was just confirmation for what God had showed me. One of the main points she highlighted is that relationships are suffering in the kingdom, people need to go back to the basics to build on relationships, what happened to the days where we kept it basic, and cut out all distractions, went for walks, went to each others places to talk, chill and pray. What happened to the days where people actually cared and wanted to genuinely know about your issues, your day and how you are doing? It is like people have jumped from basic level to advanced level in knowing people and all of a sudden you are sisters and best friends. But we are missing out on major parts of communicating to really get to know those we call sisters.

Do we check on people? Do we make time to see them? Do we believe that we are good friends when it comes to communication/ time catching up with others???

There needs to be more transparency, love, support and unity shown, how can we grow together and develop together and do what God has called us to do if we still have this me mentality, closed nature and one not embracing of others and how they feel? Change has to come, not only for our generation but to leave a good example for the upcoming generation. It is important to keep this in mind pray over it and make that change.

This is an area I have heard a few people talk about but another thing it reminds me of is that we are all fast to complain about what is not right but never step out to make that change due to many factors such as fear, doing it alone, people not understanding you name it. But you see you do not need to have the affirmations of man. If you strongly believe change has to come go ahead and make that change, pray over it and let God use you.

One thing the EUW ministry strives to bring is unity amongst us all, there is a lot of work that needs to be done, but change must happen, strong units must be developed and people need to be assured that they are not alone, they do have people around who can pray and encourage them, but not to take it upon themselves to try to do it all alone.

Do not punish yourself because you feel that you will be a burden to someone, pray and let God reveal to you those who you can open up to and will help you. Do not suffer in silence behind the good clothes, make up, nice hair etc. You deserve to be at peace, you deserve to get the strength to defeat those strongholds, you deserve to have joy, you deserve the blessings of the Lord and you deserve to grow and be used to make a change in others’ lives.

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Here are a few scriptures to do with communication to encourage you –

-JAMES 1:19 ‘My beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.’

  • EPHESIANS 4:29 ‘Let no corrupt commmnication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.’

-PROVERBS 15:2 ‘The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright, but the mouth of fools pours out foolishness.’

-PROVERBS 16:23 ‘The heart of the wise teacheth his mouth, and addeth learning to his lips.’

  • PROVERBS 13:17 ‘A wicked messenger falls in mischief but a faithful ambassador is health.’ 

I WANT TO LEAVE YOU WITH THIS LAST POINT TO PONDER ON… WHEN COMMUNICATING WITH OTHERS, ASK YOURSELF –

  • IS IT TRUE?

  • IS IT KIND?

  • IS IT NECESSARY?

 

GOD BLESS YOU ALL AND BE ENCOURAGED.

LISABLESSED

STEPPING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE!!

STEPPING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE!

Dear Father

Thank you for each and everyone of our lives, for growth, strength, lessons learnt, your mercy that is renewed every morning, direction, new beginnings and the right people in our lives you have blessed us with. May we all continue to seek you in all that we do and trust in you to guide us along the way. In your mighty name I pray. Amen

Comfort zones – A place we have all found ourselves in, fearful of stepping out, not knowing what to expect, doubting our capabilities, doing things on a routine basis, you name it sure we have all been there. But it is important to recognise that comfort zones as much as they are comfort to us, puts a strain on our walk in Christ, limiting us to receive greater things and limiting our growth in the process.

The bible doesn’t encourage comfort zones, for example when it speaks in matthew 16:24 to take up our crosses and follow God in all we do, this act alone is not comfortable because it will require you dying to self, dying to own plans, changing your mind-set, putting all self thoughts and control aside and seeking Him in all things you do. Where God places you most of the time it will not be comfortable to contain. But it is not about us, but helping to build the kingdom to serve.

There will come a time where all Christians should take that leap of faith to step outside of the comfort zone and who they are comfortable being around, and to avoid doing limited work daily. We must have the confidence in God that the same way He took us out of that comfort zone, is the same way He will equip us along the way to do more and be bold doing it. His grace is sufficient for all and He will never leave us nor forsake us.

Our walk in Christ has no room for comfort zones, but I find that, that is what we have known over time, doing what we are comfortable with, being around the same people, putting off things which need to be done, exercising control over what we choose to do and ignore. It is when those comfort zones need to be broken that the uneasiness starts too. It is like someone who has only ever known London, to then be called by God to go and do missionary work abroad and they are doubting it, making excuses and stating reasons they wouldn’t be the right person to go along and do what God has chosen them to do.

When God calls you He already knows what is going to happen before we get there, and it is a test of our faith in Him and the patience to endure that really stretches our character to the core, to work on areas that need to be dealt with the right way. Do not worry about material things or the future because the God we serve always provides for us. Because we are called to live a lifestyle radically different and effective from the way we were once living before.

One thing that struck me about comfort zones is that it is the complete opposite to how God wants us to live, in comfort zones we are controlled by fear unknown to us, we don’t take risks, we don’t tend to try new things, may say it but don’t actually do it.

When we receive salvation it is saying bye to the old ways and welcoming the ways of God to live by. We find that our natural inclination is to rely on ourselves before anyone else, that we are good and able to lead in all things. The moment we give our lives to Christ it shows us leaving those comfort zones to surrender fully to God Himself, to have faith in Him alone, deny self and align ourselves with His word. We step away from the wrong crowds, we leave old habits behind, sin no longer controls and our story changes, there are soo many beautiful benefits, that we no longer will need to go back to the world to live as we once lived. God will do things to cause us to step out of that shell we have become comfortable to be in.

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EXAMPLES OF COMFORT ZONES..

  • Fear of the unknown

  • Friendships that encourage comfort zones

  • Wrong relationships that feed our flesh

  • Settling for less than we deserve

  • The sense of having control over all things

  • Being comfortable in a job simply because of the money

We know that comfort zones need to be broken for growth, wisdom, elevation and right Godly counsel in our lives.

EXAMPLES POST COMFORT ZONES-

  • Changes in our day to day lives

  • Stepping out in faith

  • Changing the company, we keep – some are only good for comfort but do not edify you and offer Godly counsel

  • Evangelising – reaching out to people you wouldn’t normally talk to

  • Being in places you would not have attended before.

  • Spreading the good news to family and friends

One thing I stand by is that doing the work of God is not supposed to be comfortable hence why total dependence, faith and trust needs to be in God and not man. So even though it will be uncomfortable it is still worth it because when it is all said and done it is no longer about us, but how we are winning souls to save the kingdom.

Matthew 19:27 Peter says ‘See we have left everything and followed you. What then will we have?’ Because they literally gave up all they had to serve God, and in this willing state they would face many persecutions, doubt, worry, etc. But yet it was all worth it because they were covered, protected and no longer on the same level doing the same things. It was no longer doing things based on their routines but beyond that, out of their comfort zones. If this should teach us anything, its that as Christians who have picked up our crosses and following God, we must have the mind-set of not entertaining comfort zones anymore, but doing what God requires and serving wholeheartedly.

All decisions made must be aligned with what God says to us, once they align with His there will be a renewed mind and spirit to know what to do as well as what not to do. The comfort level will decrease because it is not about comfort when serving God, the more you move in comfort shows you are moving in the flesh and what you want to do more. Do not hold back when it comes to serving God because He has not created us to be weak and on the fence doubting everything and what He says to us.

SERVING OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONES. THINK ABOUT THESE POINTS-

  • HOW CAN MY GIFTS BE UTILISED?

  • HOW CAN I CHANGE MY WAYS TO NOT FALL BACK INTO COMFORT?

  • THE GRACE TO BE ABLE TO MINISTER TO EVERYONE AND NOT BE SELECTIVE.

  • WHAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK?

  • WHAT ARE YOU ALLOWING WHICH YOU SHOULD CUT OFF?

  • ARE THERE ANY STRONGHOLDS STILL OPERATING IN YOUR LIFE?

  • DO YOU REALLY BELIEVE IN YOURSELVES AND LOVE YOURSELVES?

  • DO YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE CAPABLE TO DO WHAT GOD HAS ASKED?

    BELIEVE IN YOU – GOD DOES..

God bless you all