THE HOMELESS WOMAN - WHAT ARE YOU FEEDING?

THE HOMELESS WOMAN-

WHAT ARE YOU FEEDING??

Hello Ladies,

Dear Father

I pray for every person reading this blog post may you be at the centre of everything that they do. May they grow, learn, adapt and be a blessing to everyone they come into contact with. I pray that they will build intimacy with you, run after you daily and have a firm foundation in all they do centred in Christ. So shall it be in your precious name we pray. Amen

So a few weeks ago I was out, waiting for someone and as I waiting, my attention turned to a homeless lady who was searching in the big dustbins for any food she could lay her hands on. I just sat and watched how determined she was, unashamed and on a mission to find food and drinks, that was wasted for her to take away. She took out good fruits left behind- which was sad, to think that there are people who need food, yet people who have it throw it away. The wastage of food was shocking.

She probably had it in mind that she would find a lot of food because she came with a bag to put the food in. Whether she was aware or not, there were people staring at her walking by as she was searching in the bins. She was so focused on getting the food to satisfy her hunger, that come what may she was going to get the food.

This led me to John 6:35 Jesus replied, “I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never be hungry again. Whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.”

As Christians, we should always be running to God in all things, whether big or small He is always there for us to guide us and fuel us in what we need. It is better to be hungry for the things of God, rather than the worldly things which are all temporary and can’t truly satisfy our spirit.

This is when the Holy Spirit started to minister to me, to get me to focus on the questions and points below, based off the homeless woman searching the bins- 

-      How are you feeding your spirit? OR are you feeding the flesh more.

-      Do you care what people think and with this don’t move in what God has called you to do for fear of man? Are you crippled by fear of what people will say when you step out?

-      How many can say they have genuine, true childlike faith, relying on God, running to Him seeking for your spiritual guidance and nourishment?

 

-      Many feed the desires of the flesh, but then neglect the spiritual food they need. Many focus on what is temporary, but then neglect what is eternal.

Are you hungry for the word of God, do you have the zeal to do the things of God, are you teachable and humble, as well as wise to do what is right over what the flesh wants?

With this homeless woman, she taught me many principles and it wasn’t just once I saw her, but twice and she was doing the same thing, carrying the same bag to collect food that had been thrown away in the bins. Each time she was desperate to eat food that was wasted by people, who didn’t see the value of the food and threw it away.

It just goes to show you that what others don’t appreciate or value, they abuse it. There will always be someone who has much less than them who value anything and everything. Are you thankful and appreciative for what you have, do you value the portion God has given you?

In life there are people who always want what others have, but yet never appreciate what God has given them. That’s a very dangerous life to live, if you always want what others have. You will always do things to try and get what they have; you’ll end up losing yourself in the process.

 

There is much more to say on this, but I will leave you with this –

Let your life be a story of God’s works through you, to be a driving force for people to be drawn closer to God.

GOD BLESS YOU

ISAIAH 54:5 - GOD AS YOUR HUSBAND

Hello Ladies, 

ISAIAH 54:5 - GOD AS YOUR HUSBAND

‘For your Creator will be your husband; the Lord of Heaven’s Armies is his name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.’

I will be sharing from the scripture Isaiah 54:5, I have read it and heard it many times, but today I saw it in a different way. Though the verse above it speaks on a woman who has lost her husband not being fearful of shame, disgrace and the sorrows of widowhood.

‘Fear not; you will no longer live in shame.
    Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you.
You will no longer remember the shame of your youth
    and the sorrows of widowhood.’

I saw it to include myself and all women not just widows, it spoke to me beautifully from a place of intimacy, the woman is assured that she will no longer face what she had been facing whether amongst friends, family, community etc. Then goes on to say the creator will be her husband, the one who is the Lord of Heavens Armies, our redeemer and the Holy One Of Israel. How beautiful to know this?

I want to focus more on ‘For your creator will be your husband’ for the purpose of this blog post. For a woman to call a man her husband it would have taken a lot of honesty, prayer, transparency, comfortability with the man, her bearing all and him bearing all too. There would have to have been a high level of intimacy especially – she needed to be sure he was the one and that his words matched up to his actions.

Because for better or worse, come what may they would be living as one in union with Christ at the centre, so a lot of preparation would have been needed- she would essentially be letting the man lead the household, provide, love her and the children, remain faithful and honest as well as to protect her physically, emotionally and spiritually.

When we go on to look at a husband we can see the responsibility he has to carry for the home, to lay down his life and let God equip him to lead her and the children and do the best for them. But essentially he will have Christ at the centre of it all – whether his actions, his mind, his desires, his career, etc. He is fully accountable for all he does and must uphold the vows he made at the altar to his wife.

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What I love about the verse in question is that it says God will be your husband- for God to be your husband means he will care for you, provide for you, reveal to you, share with you your pain, strengthen you, equip you, comfort you and love you beyond human reasoning and love.

He will cover you, but it also takes you doing your own part too, you have to be open, honest , sincere, intimate, transparent and open to correction. Because there then becomes a deeper level of intimacy and love that forms in God being this, with those who have lost someone, preparing to marry and or even divorced. He takes on the burdens and helps you heal and prepare for what is ahead. Different to Him being a friend, He goes deeper and is much more to you.

But again it takes a lot from your end too and to be able to learn and take away from it, what will prepare you and encourage you to do and be better. For example your heart will be exposed, areas you thought you had healed from will be exposed, your mind will be tested, your spirit will be fed, and your actions will change. Because you are being exposed to someone who has the permission to get up close and personal to you, to be in your space and see you in a different way to how others will see you. I’m reminded of the scripture that says –

Revelation 3:20 ‘Look I stand at the door and knock’. (He will never force His way in, He gives you the choice).

‘If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in..’ (IF –So you need to be discerning for His voice and not distracted by the things of this world, because when He comes He will speak, but are you listening?)

‘and we will share a meal together as friends..’ (He will come in when you respond and when He does He will eat with you, share with you, speak to you and work with you.) But you need to be willing and open to receiving Him into your heart and not just outside of it.

Let us now look at Ephesians 5:25- 31 and pick out the key points of a husbands role to his wife-

-          To love His wife, just as Christ loved the church, he gave up his life for her to make her HOLY and CLEAN- Washed by the cleansing of God’s word. – So beautiful to know that as led by example, the man is to use the word of God as His main tool to love his wife and make her holy and clean.

-          Just as having God as your husband He will work on you and purge you of ways that will draw you down, teach you what it is to love, heart matters and becoming who He has called you to be. Again you as the woman would have to be willing and teachable.

 

-          He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish- So it’s not enough to speak on it, but his actions must be evident to be able to present his wife without spot or wrinkle, to work deep on areas of hurt, pain and past unresolved issues. A job he can’t afford to take lightly.

 

-          Husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. – The husband can’t be selfish or self-centred, they must be selfless and have a love originating from Christ and in Christ. To love as he loves himself is a deeper kind of love that daily needs to be worked on, but with Christ at the centre he will do the best and be the best definition of love to his wife.

-          Same way Christ loves us; the husband will learn this and love the woman, despite her flaws, shortcomings and tough days. Because he made that commitment before God, he will as well honour it in all he does for his wife.

HUSBAND-

-      Honours you

-      Is selfless

-      Carries the power of God

-      Doesn’t withhold from his wife

-      Presents his bride to God throughout their lives as perfectly holy and virtuous as can be --To lead his wife and his family into the best things for them.

-To be the best that he can be in God's power

So ladies take it all to God, your heart and your issues and let him comfort you, just as a husband comforts, a father cares, a brother protects. Let God be the all in one that you need, despite the level you are at in life.

STAY BLESSED

HELP... I AM STRESSED!!!

Hey lovelies,

Let us pray.

Dear Father

Thank you again for what you are doing in our lives, your word which never returns void, your word that heals, your word is life, your word is encouraging, your word equips us, your word brings wisdom, instruction, faith and the ability to be great in all that we do. Father sickness, stress, depression and whatever that is not meant to be in the body of Christ has no way to enter and stay in your children, we decree and declare that anything and anyone who is causing this will be cast down and you will rise up in those situations to strengthen us and elevate us.. May we all continue to focus on you alone to have that intimate relationship with you, not just because of what you bless us with but because of who you are.

In you precious name we pray halleluyah

 

HELP… I AM STRESSED..

Many times we like to do things and then complain we are stressed or that it was too much to handle. First and foremost it is important to understand that there are DOERS in the kingdom and DOERS of self. A doer in the kingdom prays and puts God first in all they do knowing that in order to succeed in that task they must be equipped to handle what comes with that task, that is to say that when mistakes are made you understand and you keep on going, when people question what you are doing you keep on going (when God instructs you to do something please understand that it shouldn’t be negotiated for when you think the time is right) For Him to instruct you above anyone else, is to say that He believes and knows that you can do it and His name will be glorified, He trusts in you to do it and He knows that you will do your best not doubt the process and allow Him to take full control.

When you are selfless and doing the will of God you are a powerful tool in the kingdom. Yes He calls you to do it, but where there is lifting there are attacks and those attacks come in the form of distractions, sickness, negative people you name it. BUT He says in Philippians 4:13 YOU yes YOU can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. So you aren’t alone when you do things He is there every minute, every hour, every second, every day of the week isn't that amazing? He is full time with us even when we doubt, even when we fear stepping out, even when we say no, even when we sin. He is our forgiving, loving Father. We are not perfect and His grace is sufficient for us all and His mercy is new every morning. Repent daily – pray for the renewal of the spirit- pray for the renewal of the mind – pray for protection and more wisdom and be on your way. HE GOT YOU AND FAILURE IS NOT YOUR PORTION.

Stress – a state of mental or emotional strain on oneself with demanding circumstances around them, they cannot handle. Ladies and gents God did not call you to be stressed, fearful, worried, filled with anxiety and hopelessness. When He created you it says in Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I sanctified you, I ordained you a prophet to the nations.”

Do you know how powerful this is? This is to say that God knew you, long before you were even conceived, He knew you way before that and had a plan for you. He saw you as His valuable treasure and had a great purpose in mind for YOU. So why let things like negativity, stress and change in circumstances get you down? When God is saying you are way above all that and more. You have to get to a place where you know who you are in Christ, your worth and what you can do and what you need to say NO to. It is not that you are rude or selfish but it is that you know He is taking you somewhere and so your time is precious and not everything and everyone deserves your time. Not all of them can go to where you are going to.

I learnt this the hard way- People knowing and seeing that I was in ministry assumed that my life was perfect and I had no problems and life was just blessing upon blessing. God has blessed me and did back then BUT that is not to say I didn’t have attacks, that is not to say the devil didn’t try to attack my family, that is not to say I didn’t lose things. So the pedestal I was placed on was too high and I took on others problems, and favours they asked me to do on top of what I was facing and over time depriving myself of much needed time in His presence. Time for me and time to do other things which needed to be done all because I couldn’t say no, I can’t do it. Which led to my first big breakdown  – I felt drained, very weak, sick and sinking close to wanting to stop all together- I had made up my mind that ministry wasn’t for me and I could no longer go on.

But you see that was my fault, when God called me, He didn’t say accept to do all things from others, He didn’t say to act the way I did – sinking close to people pleasing. So I went on the break for a few months because I needed to be rebuilt, strengthened and taught the error of my ways. We are all built to do different things, with different gifts and different people to reach out to. But we cant do it all alone, hence why it says in Ephesians 4:11-13 “And He Himself gave some to be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers, for the equipping of the saints for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ, till we all come to the unity of the faith and the knowledge of the son of God, to a perfect man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ.”

This is to say that the kingdom as a whole, we ALL have work to do a responsibility to heal, nurture, give, build, fulfil command, and more in the body together as one. Because all the work God commands to be done cannot be done by just one of us but all of us, without division. So when we have this in mind there is nothing like wasting time on the wrong things, wrong people, wrong tasks causing stress and all sorts.

What I do now is I make a to do list of things I need to get done weekly/daily and work through those things to keep me in check and if I know there are things I cannot do, I do not commit to them because my time is precious, I cant do it all, I need time in His presence too. So I am able to discern what I need to dismiss and what I need to take on. That way you have peace, no stress, on top of everything and more importantly self-discipline and able to hear God clearly and for my spiritual eyes to stay open.

Going back to my wilderness break He let me know what it is I shouldn’t have done and what I needed to do more of, let me tell you as much as I love being in ministry, it can get very much at times for the fact that there are people who continually come to just take take take and then come again and again in this vicious cycle *transparent moment*. This may seem harsh but you see you have to understand that we are just vessels God is using, we are all vessels and we are not here for others to put us in the position of God EVER. So at times I will pray with you encourage you and redirect you back to God and ask that you pray over all we have done for Him to show forth and direct your path. So that is where the no’s started to come in because there were others who just wanted to take advantage, we have to be careful that we do not loose ourselves all in the name of helping others and not being able to say no.

Do you know that is damaging to the soul alone, if for every person who came to you asking for something you said yes yes yes yes and then after was left so drained, empty and weak. Do not take on what you cannot handle and what will cause you to stress. Although I have learnt to say no it is still hard at times but gets better, because I refuse to go back to that dark space where I was so low and weak because of taking on others issues and burdens which should not be the case. God broke me down to the core and rebuilt me in my time of need, weak fed up state and gave me beauty for ashes to make a comeback to learn and change my ways.

The breaking process will be painful but in order to grow and build as a child of the Most High you will need that. I am glad I was afflicted and battered because from that I now see who I am in Christ, I know my daddy and how faithful, loving and powerful He is and so long as we remain obedient to Him He will never forsake us.

SO SOME TIPS I APPLY TO MY LIFE, I WOULD LIKE YOU ALL TO TAKE AWAY AND REFLECT ON:

  • BEFORE YOU PLAN TO TAKE ON ANYTHING CONSULT GOD ABOUT IT
  • PRAY AND PLAN BEFORE DIVING IN
  • MAKE SURE YOU HAVE THE TIME TO COMMIT TO IT/ THEM
  • LEARN THAT IT IS OKAY TO SAY NO IF YOU CANT DO SOMETHING
  • BE PATIENT THINGS DON’T HAPPEN OVERNIGHT
  • ALWAYS ASSESS WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND IF IT WILL BRING TWO THINGS- GROWTH IN THE KINGDOM AND GROWTH IN YOU OR ARE YOU JUST DOING IT FOR THE SAKE OF SAYING YOU DID IT
  • MAKE A TO DO LIST DAILY/ WEEKLY THAT WAY YOU ARE DISCIPLINED AND ON TOP OF ALL YOU ARE DOING
  • TAKE TIME OUT – RELAX, SPEND TIME IN HIS PRESENCE
  • READ THE WORD AND MEDITATE ON IT
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 GOD BLESS YOU ALL

EPHESIANS 3 & EPHESIANS 4

MY LESSONS FROM BOTH CHAPTERS

Dear Father

Thank you Father for all that you have done for us, thank you for the word that helps us grow, encourages us, speaks life into our circumstances and gives direction to us all. Halleluyah

Reading Ephesians 3 and Ephesians 4 really touched me in various ways. I have chosen some of the verses from both to discuss.

‘I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called. 2 With all lowliness and meekness, with long suffering, forbearing one another in love’

The Most High has chosen us all to be representatives of Himself here on earth, so it is our role to live a well fulfilled life in accordance to our calling- we are His own and so ought to set a good example to others.

To have the qualities of being humble, courageous, bold, wise, gentle, peaceful and patient, it is important to remember that wherever we go people are watching us and so it is important to be a positive image for others to learn from not just that but to be who God has called us to be to fulfil our purposes in life. We are all one, united with the body and in our daily walks with Him we should learn to live with one another, with no division. One body, one spirit, one future, one faith all in one. We must learn to support and complement one another rather than turn against one another.

We all have faults and no one is perfect, but despite that we must be gentle, patient and supportive to others. What you feel is not right in others, do not bring them down by putting out their weaknesses, rather pray for them and let The Most High work on them.

3 ‘endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. 4 There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling’

God leads us all and it is up to us to follow His lead to be willing to do our part and keep up with the peace and unity in life. We are to be selfless and so we must focus on God and not ourselves first.

11 ‘And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers. 12 For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ. 13 Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ..’

We may be one in Christ, but still have our individualities, we are all spirit filled and have special gifts to help build us up. It is not enough to just know your calling and your special gifts, but you are then expected to use them, the word of God, wisdom and prayer will see you through and where the opportunities to serve are.

Always ask when unsure about anything and God will help you, you aren’t supposed to figure everything out yourself, what would be the point of having God in our lives if we knew everything and could do it all ourselves?

Once you are strengthened you will be encouraged to serve.

As The Most High’s children we have a responsibility to preach the word, pray for others, heal, nurture, build and do many things in and out of the kingdom. But it wouldn’t be possible without The Most High’s intervention, because by our own might we will not succeed. What some of us can do, is not what others can do, but together we can all unite to use our gifts for the common purpose of serving The Most High with obedience. 

16 ‘From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love.’

We must all be committed to the truth and not the ways of the world. So in all our ways it is important that we reflect the word of God, let the word of God be our reflection, not the things of the world. We are to be honest and wise in our ways, although the truth can be hard to express, we must still gracefully do it knowing that God will see us through.

We are not perfect and will make mistakes but it is important to not let our mistakes drag us down, we grow learning from mistakes and how to better ourselves daily. We all have a purpose and love for God, but we will all fall, but then we can get back up again and in all things keep pressing on. When you see someone is struggling help them up don’t watch people struggle and do nothing, we are all meant to help each other in all we do, we are relational beings and showing love and humility is key

NEW CREATION

24 ‘And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness. 25 wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.’

You are not perfect, but when you come into the kingdom it is crucial that people are able to see a difference between you and non-believers. How we live is not how those in the world live, so set a good example as a believer for others to see. We are full of light and the non-believers are full of darkness, we are not the same and so shouldn’t reflect what they reflect.

We are to leave our old selves of sinful ways behind; it is a process to move from the old ways to the new ways in the kingdom. We may be new creatures in the kingdom but that is not where it stops, we need to renew our minds and thought processes daily, and fight the ways of the flesh. How we think leads to our actions, so to express ourselves we need to be cleansed of negative thoughts and negative attitudes. This is where listening to The Most High comes into practice to hear Him and be led by what we are instructed to do.

CONTROLLING OUR EMOTIONS/ HOW WE ACT:

26 ‘Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath. 27 Neither give place to the devil.’

We are human, again we are not perfect and will make mistakes. We will feel angry at times and it is how we handle that anger that matters, how we treat others, what words we use etc. In the world we would have reacted, but in the kingdom we must pray and release the anger to not let it consume us. Do not hold it inside always let it out, as Paul says we should deal with our anger immediately to avoid destroying relationships around us. The devil loves it when we let our anger consume us because when someone is angry they do not handle it well and fall of track, led by emotions pushing them to react in a way God wouldn’t want us to act in.

29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.’

Paul warns against the use of foul language, wrath, evil speaking, bad attitudes, harsh words etc. But rather than act that way he asks that we should have a forgiving nature and put aside ways that will bring more negativity as opposed to positivity. We are to please God with our actions as well as our attitudes, so act in a loving way towards others and learn as you go along how to overcome negativity.

30 ‘And grieve not the Holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.’

We belong to God, the Holy Spirit dwells within us, we are His and He loves us so much to teach us right from wrong along the way, help us when we fall, strengthen us and love us unconditionally.

The Bible gives us direction and shows us what happens when we do not follow God’s lead. Always pray and ask for wisdom and understanding before you read the Bible and He will reveal a lot of things to you.

Bless you all

Halleluyah

BOUNDARIES

Dear Father,

Thank you, for all that you are doing in our lives, for us being alive, being called yours, learning and growing but above all walking in purpose to serve. For those who don’t know their purpose I pray that they shall draw closer to you to receive the in pour and direction needed to walk in purpose and build on intimacy with you. So, help us Father in our walks, we pray and believe that each thing that happens is for a reason and that our trust and faith in you shall not be shaken despite what is shown in the natural.

 BOUNDARIES, a word that has been on my heart for some time and studying it in training caused me to delve deeper to look at its importance as well as my own personal boundaries.

Boundaries can be defined as a line which marks the limits of an area, a dividing line. To have protection over what you don’t want tampered with or yourself to keep out negative people and thoughts that will cause a negative effect on you.

Now linking to interpersonal relationships with others it gives us the peace of mind we need when we can take control of what we want around us, as well as in our personal space. We are all unique, with different identities, feelings, morals and responsibilities necessary to function day to day. Healthy boundaries I believe we must all have, as well as respecting the personal boundaries others have as well. You can’t expect to have boundaries set in place but then not respect other people’s boundaries, that is unfair and double standards living.

Boundaries when you think about it relates to self and self- control in how we can control what comes near us, to control our desires, as well as being able to set in place what needs to be worked on and what doesn’t bring forth growth. Not everything or everyone is healthy for you and so to make sure we are secure and sane as well as at peace, we must make sure that we look after ourselves well, not just physically, emotionally and spiritually too above all.

What is not worked on that doesn’t bear forth fruit, can damage your spirit and way of doing things, I say this because you then become comfortable in being complacent to things you feel can’t be changed but should just be coped with and that is not the right mindset to have at all.

Bearing in mind there are those people who do not have boundaries and get carried away thinking that, just because they do not have boundaries must mean others don’t too. If you are not careful and you are weak mentally and spiritually, you will be controlled by their selfish tactics and not only is this very unhealthy but draining to you and does no good in helping you become who God wants you to become. Rather you’re a puppet on strings manipulated by the actions of others, who at times may not always know better or be aware of what they are doing.

You are free in Christ, a new creation in Him so do not allow yourself to be caged by the actions of others, who may or may not always agree with what you do and believe is best for YOU. ‘You have your personal space and either they respect your boundaries or stay away’ it is that simple because you can’t let just anyone close and you can’t entertain everything others entertain too. Protect your eye gates to let what enters your spirit help in your growth and relationship with God.

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Boundaries set need to be boundaries that will help you with good motives to have that boundary in place. For example, one of your boundaries might be ‘I will guard my heart from those who don’t have any boundaries set in their own lives and not let just anyone close to me.’ Your personal space is yours to use as you wish and with that though not everyone will understand, at least you do and stand by it to protect yourself.

There can be boundaries that are sinful that cause you to be selfish to set people far away from you simply because you just don’t like them from ‘judgement’. Or because you just want to hurt them, you punish them by excluding them from things you and others plan. In the kingdom community if your boundaries are group related to keep people out, then check your heart and motives because not only is that unhealthy it can affect those who don’t feel loved, supported or valued.

In my training, we were discussing why the need of boundaries is important not only in this field but in all areas of our lives. As a believer who does many different things I have boundaries in place, firstly in my spiritual walk, to let the worldly influences and people I once knew as worldly friends stay away. Because no matter how strong you are, you are not perfect and can fall. So do not put yourself in situations where you can fall and then blame it on others, you should know better (said with love J) A good scripture to use with this is 2 Corinthians 6:14 ‘Children of the light have no fellowship with darkness and are separate from the world.’ So with the word saying this why would you allow yourself to be open to just anyone and anything that can cause darkness to creep in?

Yes, it is good to exude love, kindness, and support to others, we are believers, God is love and we must be examples of His love here on earth. BUT that is not to say that we must let our guard down to have the worldly type of living and character and then say we are His, we are either in darkness or light not in between because we are then lukewarm. Be wise in your boundary setting and use wisdom for how you apply it.

 

  • Take responsibility
  • Know that healthy boundaries links in with healthy self- control.
  • God has given you and I freedom, but if you live outside of it there will be consequences, be wise in your actions. Romans 6:23 ‘For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.’
  • Boundaries are key to healthy living spiritually and peace of mind, and limit negative thoughts as well as negative people. Not to say they won’t come in numbers, but you will know how to deal with them.
  • Boundaries help you not to sin, maintain respect and walk in accordance to the word of God and not man.
  • Check your heart and motives when you set boundaries, are they pure and of good intentions?
  • Boundaries keep you safe and alert for what is going on and how to best avoid what can bring harm, for protection as well as peace as well.
  • Knowing when to say yes as well as when to say no, not overstretching yourself, because when you do that it will be you to handle the consequences not those who you kept saying yes to. You feel it more and being in these situations can be very draining.

 

  • Accept that others have boundaries, even if you don’t agree with all of them. But don’t make people feel as though they owe you anything and that their boundaries aren’t good enough. It is not your place to say that.
  • We have a right to have boundaries, with the freedom to grow and do what is right for us.
  • Self-control is a fruit of the spirit for believers, Galatians 5:22-23 but is not something unbelievers in the dark can live by, they are controlled by sin and lost in their ways. The importance of setting our boundaries is also saying that we are taking responsibilities for our own actions, which in turn leads to us making the right decisions in our lives. We are not being selfish but we are saying that we need to control ourselves and what we allow close.
  • 1 Corinthians 15:33 ‘Do not be deceived and misled, evil companionship corrupts and depraves good manners and morals and character.’ Don’t allow yourself to be used and abused.

REMEMBER BOUNDARIES ARE SET IN PLACE TO PROTECT YOUR SPACE AND EVEN THOUGH NOT EVERYONE WILL RESPECT THEM DOESN’T MEAN THEY ARE WRONG.

GOD BLESS YOU ALL