THE IMPORTANCE OF COMMUNICATION

THE IMPORTANCE OF COMMUNICATION…

Dear Father,

We thank you for being our Father, loving, forgiving and always there for us to be able to call on in all that we go through. Father I pray that in all things we will learn to go to you first, and not get distracted by the things of this world or others, may we never be led astray by our thoughts and in all things prayer and the word will always be first and never last. Thank you Father for all you do for us, Monday to Sunday, 24 hours a day you are there for us always, you have not gone on leave and love us all the same. Thank you Father in your name we pray. Amen.

Learn to delve deeper to get to the root of why you are the way you are, the effect of the past is very important, to not let it affect your ways, going back to old ways and staying in those bad habits.

God has shown me the importance of communication with others and why as relational beings we need to be able to do so, though uncomfortable and hard to take in- reason why I say this is because before I had the mentality that if you don’t call me I won’t call you, if you don’t reach out to meet up I won’t. In the past I have always been the one to reach out regardless and when I wasn’t always getting it back, it hurt and I stopped doing it and just lived with the mentality to put me first and save my time. So when God was showing me this it was difficult to hear as I have always been one way as opposed to reaching out to others whether they do it first or not.

Having that mentality in the past was quite tough to shake off for a while, God just instructed me to not do any work but just to seek Him, refocus and get direction. The main thing He wanted me to understand is that communication is key in the kingdom but many of us do not communicate well and division occurs. Because of the cliques formed many are used to those they are close to and not others outside of that clique, so they stay knowing that once they are close to those people they are comfortable with, that they do not feel the need to interact with others.

 God went on to help me understand that when He called me into ministry one of the things I needed to do more of is to show love and support and to communicate with people better. I can’t make it about me all the time. Everyone is going through something and many are battling in secret, so a simple call, text or meet up goes a long way to help a sister or brother in Christ. The moment we became born again all our personal desires and self-ways had to part from us, we no longer made it about us but about those we are called to serve. So it is selfish of me to think about myself and be kept bound by the past experiences.

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 QUESTIONS TO REFLECT ON….

HOW WOULD YOU RATE YOUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS WITH THOSE AROUND YOU?

ARE YOU HAPPY WITH HOW YOU COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS?

DO YOU PRAY OVER THIS AREA AS MUCH AS OTHER AREAS?

 Was speaking to a dear sister of mine about this area a while ago and all she said was just confirmation for what God had showed me. One of the main points she highlighted is that relationships are suffering in the kingdom, people need to go back to the basics to build on relationships, what happened to the days where we kept it basic, and cut out all distractions, went for walks, went to each others places to talk, chill and pray. What happened to the days where people actually cared and wanted to genuinely know about your issues, your day and how you are doing? It is like people have jumped from basic level to advanced level in knowing people and all of a sudden you are sisters and best friends. But we are missing out on major parts of communicating to really get to know those we call sisters.

Do we check on people? Do we make time to see them? Do we believe that we are good friends when it comes to communication/ time catching up with others???

There needs to be more transparency, love, support and unity shown, how can we grow together and develop together and do what God has called us to do if we still have this me mentality, closed nature and one not embracing of others and how they feel? Change has to come, not only for our generation but to leave a good example for the upcoming generation. It is important to keep this in mind pray over it and make that change.

This is an area I have heard a few people talk about but another thing it reminds me of is that we are all fast to complain about what is not right but never step out to make that change due to many factors such as fear, doing it alone, people not understanding you name it. But you see you do not need to have the affirmations of man. If you strongly believe change has to come go ahead and make that change, pray over it and let God use you.

One thing the EUW ministry strives to bring is unity amongst us all, there is a lot of work that needs to be done, but change must happen, strong units must be developed and people need to be assured that they are not alone, they do have people around who can pray and encourage them, but not to take it upon themselves to try to do it all alone.

Do not punish yourself because you feel that you will be a burden to someone, pray and let God reveal to you those who you can open up to and will help you. Do not suffer in silence behind the good clothes, make up, nice hair etc. You deserve to be at peace, you deserve to get the strength to defeat those strongholds, you deserve to have joy, you deserve the blessings of the Lord and you deserve to grow and be used to make a change in others’ lives.

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Here are a few scriptures to do with communication to encourage you –

-JAMES 1:19 ‘My beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.’

  • EPHESIANS 4:29 ‘Let no corrupt commmnication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.’

-PROVERBS 15:2 ‘The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright, but the mouth of fools pours out foolishness.’

-PROVERBS 16:23 ‘The heart of the wise teacheth his mouth, and addeth learning to his lips.’

  • PROVERBS 13:17 ‘A wicked messenger falls in mischief but a faithful ambassador is health.’ 

I WANT TO LEAVE YOU WITH THIS LAST POINT TO PONDER ON… WHEN COMMUNICATING WITH OTHERS, ASK YOURSELF –

  • IS IT TRUE?

  • IS IT KIND?

  • IS IT NECESSARY?

 

GOD BLESS YOU ALL AND BE ENCOURAGED.

LISABLESSED

MATTHEW 18:10-14

MATTHEW 18:10-14 – PARABLE OF THE LOST SHEEP

YOU MATTER

In the bible, this section is titled as – “Yeshua warns against looking down on others.”

Do a quick self-check of yourself-

-       Do you look down on others?

-       Do you support others?

-       Do you consider yourself a people person?

-       When others are low do you comfort them/ pray with them?

With this self-check the aim is to test how you are with others, how you treat them and if really you look down on others in their times of need, or you just think you’re above them and know better – But humble yourself and allow God work on those areas and use you. Just because God uses you differently to others, or that by His favour you have achieved a lot doesn’t make it okay to look down on others. The worse thing to do when it comes to others, is to kick them when they are down and not help them. That is someone’s child here on earth- God’s special being – and so it is important to be able to look beyond your tainted view, trust issues, your past hurts etc and treat that person with love and kindness.

Someone can be down today and tomorrow be up, life is progressive and things change, never get comfortable with your current level. You are high today and tomorrow you may be low. There are stages and there are lessons, pride comes before the fall so be humble always and never boast in your own strength, it’s not you who got you there.

            We live in a society where most people are consumed so much with self, getting the latest things, being known- status and all these temporary things which can’t fill any void no matter how hard they may try. It is definitely a materialistic- social media society we are in. And if one is not careful they can be consumed by all the wrong things and neglect what matters – The faith, family, friends etc.

You have to get to a point where the temporary things don’t dictate to you. But rather your focus is on what is eternal– the things above. No matter how hard you try to cover up what is internal, eventually one way or the other it’ll get exposed. So whatever that is within, take it to God and let Him work on you and heal you.

I say all this to say that how we treat others, is an indication of how we treat and value ourselves and our walk in Christ. WHAT IS YOUR PERSONAL VIEW OF YOURSELF?

For example, if I am someone who is so into my own self and shallow I will always put the things of God and knowing Him last. Will put people last too and always think of myself and what I can gain, because as far as I am concerned it’s all about me myself and I.

But if I am someone who is selfless, love God, strive to be the best I can be daily and is kind hearted and loves others. How I treat others will show in the love and compassion presented. Because I have acquired the traits from God to know and act in a way that seems pleasing to Him and can be extended to fellow believers and non believers.

Your actions show the God you serve in human form to extend love and help to others here on earth. Because you know what it’s like to be low, have nothing, be treated unfairly and not shown the respect or kind nature you felt you ought to get. So when God stepped in and healed you, you knew the importance of forgiveness and extending love and help to others in a way that reflects Christ in you. How beautiful is this?

 

MATTHEW 18:10-14 “Beware that you don’t look down on any of these little ones. For I tell you that in heaven their angels are always in the presence of my heavenly Father. If a man has a hundred sheep and one of them wanders away, what will he do? Won’t he leave the ninety-nine others on the hills and go out to search for the one that is lost? And if he finds it, I tell you the truth, he will rejoice over it more than over the ninety-nine that didn’t wander away! In the same way, it is not my heavenly Father’s will that even one of these little ones should perish.”

With reference to Matthew 18:10-14

It starts off with a warning, beware to not look down on any little ones – one can understand this to mean children or young people. So from young especially as God loves children, to older age whoever that you come into contact with don’t look down on them just because they are doing things or living a lifestyle you no longer live and know is wrong. You are called to be the light and salt of the world, to add flavour to dying lives and light to those in darkness, you are called to shine forth, whilst delivering the truth as led by the Holy Spirit.

So if you don’t step up to do what God has called you to do, the people you’re called to will perish. You went through all you did for a purpose and now that you are on the other side of that lifestyle - lost in the world. It’s not for you to sit on, but to share the testimony of God’s goodness and love to others who need it too hear it and be blessed by it.

Don’t be obese on the blessings and favour that you don’t extent it to others who need it too. Lead by example and as a leader in your sphere of influence give people a chance, love them, help them, pray them through, and live the right way and above all direct them back to God and make His name known. Matthew 5:16‘You are the salt and light of the earth, but what good is salt if it has lost its flavour? Can you make it salty again? It will be thrown out and trampled underfoot as worthless.’

Moving on when we reach Matthew 18:12 ‘If a man has a hundred sheep and one of them wanders away, what will he do? Won’t he leave the ninety-nine others on the hills and go out to search for the one that is lost?’

I find this part of the scripture so profound, and this generation contradicts this scripture. Because in this generation its acted out that to make it you must have many followers and a popular status. But this scripture goes against what is acted upon in this generation. It is not about the numbers, or material things or even status. But it’s about the intention and heart. The fact that you may have many followers doesn’t mean you have made it, be humble, the fact that your voice is heard be humble, the fact that you’re called to speak be humble.

Be humble in all your ways because at the end of the day it is about the souls and in that if you see one stray, go to that person and help them get back on track, don’t think that just because it is one person, that you have enough on the other side and so they don’t matter.

NO they do matter, every soul matters, YOU MATTER, everyone needs help, everyone gets tired, discouraged, loses their way and gets consumed so much with issues that they at times may even drown out God’s word and time spent with Him. So by you ignoring them too, may just tip them over the edge if they have no one to talk to. Imagine that, leave the ninety-nine people and go after the one. The one is just as precious as the ninety-nine. So please don’t work by number, work soul by soul and let God use you mightily because in you is greatness to help many. Treat others with love and care; you don’t know what they have to battle daily.

 

Furthermore Matthew 18:13 goes on to say and IF he finds it, could it be that the soul that strayed away was so lost and beyond human help they slipped away?

On the flip side to that when you find that soul rejoice over it, because despite it being one soul, every soul matters and when found is a big reason to rejoice. The others didn’t stray away but because this soul was part of them, is an even bigger reason to rejoice that though they left, was found and now back. Always rejoice over the small and big accomplishments, not just the big. Because in actual fact everything the Lord does is a blessing and reason for rejoicing.

Matthew 18:14 finishes this part by saying it is not our heavenly Father’s will that even one of these little ones should perish. God doesn’t want anyone to perish He loves us all and wants us all to be saved and receive salvation. There is no one who is not important to God, He loves us all and we are His children. So don’t count yourself less than, because of circumstances or how you see yourself. Because at the end of it all how God sees you is key and all that matters.

Lastly..

MY EXPERIENCE PREVIOUSLY WITH A PROVIDER-

I had been with a provider for a while and felt it was time to close that account and move on. To me I thought it was going to be an easy process call in get it closed and tah tah it’s done. But to my annoyance it wasn’t that easy lol. I had to give reason why I wanted to close, pay one final payment and then call back to confirm I want to close the account- it just seemed like a long process and on top of that the customer service agent was questioning why I wanted to leave, what he could do to make me stay with them, and all sorts of long talk. In my mind I was thinking look you have soo many customers, why should it matter if I want to close account and go?

When all was said and done it hit me that just like how God cares for the one soul, these service providers (the good ones), care for each one of us and want to make sure their service to us is of good quality, so that we don’t leave them. Though they take our money for a service rendered, they are in actual fact saying that whether they have one thousand or two thousand customers your service is just as great and important to them as the other nine hundred and ninety nine customers.

This analogy came to me, with the scripture above and I just fell in love with God more, just thinking about how much He cares and loves us. Calls us by name, forgives us, counsels us, chastises us, saves us daily from unknown attacks, and guides our way and so much more. It is so beautiful to think about and know, that the Creator of Heaven and earth and all these people you see knows us by name and the number of hairs on our head. Just take a moment to reflect on this.

Hope you were all encouraged by this, keep pressing on and give your all

God bless

EUW SELF LOVE CAMPAIGN - REJECTION

REJECTION 

Hello Ladies,

Rejection can be defined as the act of pushing someone away. You may experience rejection from family of origin, a friend, or a romantic partner, and the resulting emotions can often be painful. Rejection might be experienced on a large scale or in small ways in everyday life. While rejection is typically a part of life, some types of rejection may be more difficult to cope with than others.’

If there is any area I know too well it is rejection, rejection from friends and in relationhips. When rejection took place I never knew how to handle it, I lost myself in the negativity and pain of others, I would think I was not good enough based off of the treatment I received from others. But later on when I let God in, I realised and learnt that I cannot control the actions of others, neither can I change people and definately cant expect them to treat me good based on me treating them good. 

On one occasssion I faced rejection which really took a lot out of me, was when I was cheated on countless times and dumped, faced many things, put to the side and then asked to be the side chick. Because I did not know myself worth, I allowed a lot which should have avoided, walked away from and prayed over. But being that I was naive and weaker in my walk back then a lot of what I experienced at times was self inflicted because what I was entertaining was what God would have saved me from. But thanks be to God and His grace and mercy for delivering me and setting me free from all that I endured.

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You have to be very careful to not let imperfect people who are not sure of themselves define and put you down you have to come to an understanding of who you are and whose you are. Or else you will allow many things to stagnate you in mess.

When rejected and you question yourself, you entertain a low sense of self, you lose yourself, you dont know your identity, you water down your capabilities and on top of that you accept lower than you deserve because you always use the yardstick of man to move by and so by doing that, you cannot progress to do and be better. You will forever be bound to the toxic thoughts of men and their ways. But the moment you break out and break free and use Christ as your standard you will surpass all the negativity and traps and be in the positon where God wants you to be and that alone is all that matters.

God loves us, He calls us His own, we are cherished, beautiful, a royal priesthood and able to do great and mighty things once we believe this and know who we are. Step out and be bold you may be rejected by man, but not by God.

REJECTION IS ALWAYS A REDIRECTION TO WHAT GOD HAS IN STORE FOR YOU. NEVER SEE IT AS A BAD THING, THOUGH EASIER SAID THAN DONE. DONT LET IT  KEEP YOU DOWN. BUT RATHER RISE UP AND GIVE ALL TO GOD, LET HIM USE THE PIECES TO MAKE A BEAUTIFUL MASTERPIECE.

REJECTION ENCOURAGEMENT BOOSTERS-

- TAKE WHAT YOU ARE STRUGGLING WITH TO GOD - BUILD INTIMACY WITH GOD

- PRAY OVER THE REJECTION AND HURT

- STUDY THE WORD AND USE THE TRUTH TO ENCOURAGE YOU

- GET ACCOUNTABILITY IN A GODLY COMMUNITY

- GET INTO A SOUND DOCTRINE CHURCH

Be encouraged and know that your past doesnt define you, it rather teaches you and helps to build you up to learn, grow and be positioned to where God wants to allign you to operate from. I pray this blessed and encouraged you in some way. Loving you in prayer.

God richly bless you all

LisaBlessed