Hello Ladies, 


‘For your Creator will be your husband; the Lord of Heaven’s Armies is his name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.’

I will be sharing from the scripture Isaiah 54:5, I have read it and heard it many times, but today I saw it in a different way. Though the verse above it speaks on a woman who has lost her husband not being fearful of shame, disgrace and the sorrows of widowhood.

‘Fear not; you will no longer live in shame.
    Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you.
You will no longer remember the shame of your youth
    and the sorrows of widowhood.’

I saw it to include myself and all women not just widows, it spoke to me beautifully from a place of intimacy, the woman is assured that she will no longer face what she had been facing whether amongst friends, family, community etc. Then goes on to say the creator will be her husband, the one who is the Lord of Heavens Armies, our redeemer and the Holy One Of Israel. How beautiful to know this?

I want to focus more on ‘For your creator will be your husband’ for the purpose of this blog post. For a woman to call a man her husband it would have taken a lot of honesty, prayer, transparency, comfortability with the man, her bearing all and him bearing all too. There would have to have been a high level of intimacy especially – she needed to be sure he was the one and that his words matched up to his actions.

Because for better or worse, come what may they would be living as one in union with Christ at the centre, so a lot of preparation would have been needed- she would essentially be letting the man lead the household, provide, love her and the children, remain faithful and honest as well as to protect her physically, emotionally and spiritually.

When we go on to look at a husband we can see the responsibility he has to carry for the home, to lay down his life and let God equip him to lead her and the children and do the best for them. But essentially he will have Christ at the centre of it all – whether his actions, his mind, his desires, his career, etc. He is fully accountable for all he does and must uphold the vows he made at the altar to his wife.

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What I love about the verse in question is that it says God will be your husband- for God to be your husband means he will care for you, provide for you, reveal to you, share with you your pain, strengthen you, equip you, comfort you and love you beyond human reasoning and love.

He will cover you, but it also takes you doing your own part too, you have to be open, honest , sincere, intimate, transparent and open to correction. Because there then becomes a deeper level of intimacy and love that forms in God being this, with those who have lost someone, preparing to marry and or even divorced. He takes on the burdens and helps you heal and prepare for what is ahead. Different to Him being a friend, He goes deeper and is much more to you.

But again it takes a lot from your end too and to be able to learn and take away from it, what will prepare you and encourage you to do and be better. For example your heart will be exposed, areas you thought you had healed from will be exposed, your mind will be tested, your spirit will be fed, and your actions will change. Because you are being exposed to someone who has the permission to get up close and personal to you, to be in your space and see you in a different way to how others will see you. I’m reminded of the scripture that says –

Revelation 3:20 ‘Look I stand at the door and knock’. (He will never force His way in, He gives you the choice).

‘If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in..’ (IF –So you need to be discerning for His voice and not distracted by the things of this world, because when He comes He will speak, but are you listening?)

‘and we will share a meal together as friends..’ (He will come in when you respond and when He does He will eat with you, share with you, speak to you and work with you.) But you need to be willing and open to receiving Him into your heart and not just outside of it.

Let us now look at Ephesians 5:25- 31 and pick out the key points of a husbands role to his wife-

-          To love His wife, just as Christ loved the church, he gave up his life for her to make her HOLY and CLEAN- Washed by the cleansing of God’s word. – So beautiful to know that as led by example, the man is to use the word of God as His main tool to love his wife and make her holy and clean.

-          Just as having God as your husband He will work on you and purge you of ways that will draw you down, teach you what it is to love, heart matters and becoming who He has called you to be. Again you as the woman would have to be willing and teachable.


-          He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish- So it’s not enough to speak on it, but his actions must be evident to be able to present his wife without spot or wrinkle, to work deep on areas of hurt, pain and past unresolved issues. A job he can’t afford to take lightly.


-          Husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. – The husband can’t be selfish or self-centred, they must be selfless and have a love originating from Christ and in Christ. To love as he loves himself is a deeper kind of love that daily needs to be worked on, but with Christ at the centre he will do the best and be the best definition of love to his wife.

-          Same way Christ loves us; the husband will learn this and love the woman, despite her flaws, shortcomings and tough days. Because he made that commitment before God, he will as well honour it in all he does for his wife.


-      Honours you

-      Is selfless

-      Carries the power of God

-      Doesn’t withhold from his wife

-      Presents his bride to God throughout their lives as perfectly holy and virtuous as can be --To lead his wife and his family into the best things for them.

-To be the best that he can be in God's power

So ladies take it all to God, your heart and your issues and let him comfort you, just as a husband comforts, a father cares, a brother protects. Let God be the all in one that you need, despite the level you are at in life.





A year today the Empowered United Women Ministry had our first conference – Renewing the faith and restoring love back into women’s lives. 

The holy spirit had His way and indeed we had a blessed time in His presence, it was beautiful to see the ladies re-surrender their all to God and be stripped of what was holding them captive. It very easy for us to act as though we have it all together when really our inner man is being starved of prayer and intimacy with God and the word. We need to remember that in our walk it is not just about maintaining our exterior but to look after ourselves internally and whatever we may harbour in our hearts without knowing. May we continue to let God have His way in our lives as we go forward and do not be afraid to be transparent and open with others about what He has delivered you from.

Renewing the faith and restoring love back into women’s lives – This concept was laid as a firm reminder to us all that there is more to us than our weave, makeup, fancy clothes and smiles. Beneath all of this that is shown there are many women who are walking around carrying dead weight, are battered, in pain and uncomfortable in themselves. As sad as it is, it is happening a lot and must not be ignored. To show the seriousness of this, was at an event and at our conference and saw thick heavy dark clouds in the room above the ladies, to signify the pain, struggles, lowness and hardship many face but do not confront all in the hopes of thinking it will go away. But rather it gets worse and eventually you can no longer run from what you never faced in the first place.

It is important for us as, God’s daughters to know our worth, that we are beautiful and the exterior doesn’t define us, we are strong, set apart, special and His Queens. But it is when we walk in fleshly ways that all this seems strange and you count yourself out because of emotions and experiences you have not yet deal with. With all that you go through remember there is a ROOT and you must get to the root of that issue and why you are the way you are and let God in to do a heart surgery and mind renewal.

To avoid you carrying dead weight and unresolved issues. He is your source, He loves you and wants to hear from you don’t shut Him out or blame Him, rather let His words be your words, receive your healing and let Him use you. You have a past yes, but that doesn’t disqualify you, remember as it says in 2Cor 5:17 – ‘Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away, behold THE NEW HAS COME'. Do not count yourself out because of your past when in Christ you are made a new creation and all old habits, mistakes and other things you did are now a thing of the past. Align yourself with how God sees you and let your truth be His.

Thank you to all the ladies who helped in making our first conference a special, memorable one, all those who took part on the day, those who prayed and encouraged us all. And to the ladies who came God richly bless you all. Thank you.







Dear Father,

Thank you for our lives, thank you for healing, direction, strength, boldness and more, to help us go forward in all we do in life. I pray that those who are reading this will be encouraged by your words to have a better understanding of transparency and why it is important to be that way, living an unashamed impact here on earth. We wont always understand why things happen to us but we are to trust and believe in you to see us through it. May you make our crocked paths straight and work on any broken areas that need fixing. Have your way in all we do and say and may your name alone be glorified in all we do. So help us Father in your name we pray. Amen

What does it mean to be transparent?

To be transparent is to be open, to share what you have been through and how it has affected you. When you are transparent you are no longer ashamed, you are open and free to discuss what you have passed through to be able to help another who is going through similar. Your transparency will come across to others as someone who is bold, honest and sincere to let others into their world. It means you are not afraid and no longer bound by the things you were going through, in your transparent moments you can receive your healing and grow more spiritually.

You have nothing to hide because as it says in 2 Cor 5:17 ‘therefore if anyone, is in Christ, he is a new creation, the old has passed away behold, the new has come’

By this it says that, we are no longer those same people who did those things in the past, so now that we have become born again and know God, are made whole and renewed to be and do better. We no longer define ourselves based on our old selves, but we now define ourselves based on how God sees us. You more or less have the new-found freedom to speak and act with God leading you, you are no longer bound but set free.


-People see your struggles and what you have battled with.

-There is no shame or fear to speak out

-You can receive your healing by being open as led to

-When God heals and delivers you – it is so that you can be a source of encouragement for those He has called you to serve

-There should be no judging when transparent moments are being shared- no one is perfect and the past is the past

-The fact that you are being transparent with others does not mean you are weak or emotional

-There is no time to be selfish, share what God has done and embrace the changes, you are no longer that lost person in the world.

-Strength comes from being transparent and wise in your steps

- With transparency comes obedience. Move when God says to move and speak

-You may have made all those mistakes but doesn’t mean God cannot use you

-Let His light shine upon you to be a blessing to many, from your mess comes a message and from all those tests comes a testimony. Despite what people say know where your truth comes from

-Galatians 2:20 – ‘I have been crucified with Christ, it is no longer I who lives but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me’

To be transparent is to know who God is and have an intimate relationship with Him. When you know who He is and follow Him your assurance and trust in Him develops to be more content in who you are and accept that though you did what you did in the past you are no longer that same person. Do not feel the need to sugar coat all that God has done for you, it takes away the power of the transformation, it is when you lay it all out that you see step by step exactly what He has done and why your faith in Him should not be shaken. When you see this, you are encouraged and know that no matter what is to come you can face it because He will see you through it all.

The moment you can be transparent is to show others that the same God who saved you in the past and delivered you from all your troubles is the same God that you are looking to now who still working things out for your good- Romans 8:28

Whatever it may be that you have, or are passing through, God is still faithful now and forever more and will never change, in knowing this when we lay down our lives it will take us to the point of saying it is no longer my will but your will be done- to take up your cross boldly and follow Him. Not to say you wont face things going forward because we know that we cannot escape troubles in our lives especially when we are believers. The devil is forever trying to bring us down, but with God we know that despite all that He will see us through.

Be an example of His ambassadors here on earth and do not be ashamed because others may ridicule you, they just lack the spiritual maturity to see all that God has done for you. Keep on going regardless you are not here to please people, but only please God – Gal 1:10

Be encouraged and know that your story carries weight, a purpose and encouragement for others, you may not understand why when you are in that situation, but when you come out you will see His goodness and forever give thanks.

God bless you all