Self-Esteem can be defined as the opinion of how we see ourselves, so when we have a healthy self-esteem, we tend to feel positive about ourselves and about life in general. But when our self-esteem is low, we tend to see ourselves and our life in a more negative and critical light.’
Today want to tackle briefly the sensitive area of self-esteem, I for one can relate to this area for many reasons, one being the labels that were enforced on me growing up and in my teenage years. I struggled with identity, not really knowing who I was, I would allow so much to enter my mind and let it stay there as I lived it out so my view on self and live was tainted and very damaging. When you don’t know who you are you allow anyone who has no right to define you, label you and have control over what you say to yourself and how you treat yourself.
That is why it is so so important to know whose you are and who you are because then that alone is the power you carry against any negativity and critics. Yes, people will always have something to say, but those same imperfect people have different mindsets, different opinions, different likes and dislikes so anything they say about you wont always be the same as the next person.
So, imagine trying to people please all these people, living by what they tell you.. Damaging right? Well that was me for some time, because I was lost, I had no direction, no wisdom or sense of belonging and always tried to fit in with what people wanted me to be and most times because they didn’t know themselves they tried to put that on me. It was like the lost leading the lost, the blind leading the blind. It was never going to end well unless someone broke out of it and got better for themselves. Thank God for saving me, I write this saved and being that I was unsaved before, I knew no better.
Notice the definition of self-esteem says its how we see ourselves, so if we see ourselves low, we then give permission for others to see us in the same way we too see ourselves and that can be very damaging, because in a place where there is constant negativity and drama, you can never grow and go beyond your current level. It is not really just about how you see yourself, because most times that is what people see and feed off, so you can then allow and know who to let close based on the signs of you seeing how they would treat you.
I battled with it for years, was it tough yes? Did I have good counsel around me? No not always, or in fact they were there but never really understood. You see the people around you should be able to uplift you and encourage you and if that is not always the case pray over it, because you really need to have people around you who you can grow with not stay at one place with. So all these different elements of self come into play-
- How do you see yourself?
- How do others around you see you?
- Do you know whose and who you are?
- Do you see yourself in a positive way?
- Do I know what the word of God says about me?
To name a few.
For now this is where I will leave it short and sweet to encourage and remind someone that they are precious, beautiful, enough and not who people define them to be. Know who you are and there will be no room to allow negativity in your life.
God bless you all