So far I have spoken about dating, courtship the differences between the two and an argument on why Christians shouldn’t date unbelievers, as much I do feel that it isn’t right, based on scripture and various reasons. I am also willing to look at the bigger picture by talking a bit about how such could actually work out. From what I have seen and heard there have been unbelievers who have become born again Christians to get closer to a Christian they really like and more importantly God.
REAL LIFE SITUATION: A guy who was an unbeliever showed interest in a woman who so happened to be a strong Christian. She told him that if he really wanted to be with her would have to have a relationship with God and become born again in Christ. For some time he was reluctant to do so and kept coming back and forth until one day he realised how much he actually likes her and so took the bold step to become born again, they eventually courted and plan to marry. So there are situations where depending on how strong the feelings are the unbeliever can turn their life around and change to live right. The latter situation is a good example of this.
If they are a believer and you want him or her best way is to keep them in prayers and keep a healthy distance from them, because depending on how strong you are in Christ they’re sins may eventually rub on you causing you to fall. But don’t take it upon yourself to get closer to them by doing things you know you shouldn’t do, just so that you can make them happy.
Even if the person is for you, he would have to genuinely repent and invite Christ into His life and know what it is to live a Godly life and not a worldly life. One to lead a woman to Christ and not to taint her relationship with God by getting in the way of God and her, God in turn will let you know if he or she is for you if not believe and trust in God to give you the best in His own time and not on your own accord.
Either way it is best to consult God in everything and not make a habit of going against what is written to put self desires first before God, especially when you’re not led.
This is a concise brief argument on why a Christian may be able to be with an unbeliever. But it wouldn’t be wise for them to get to together but keep a healthy distance at first and over time work on things without getting physically attached. Because when it’s all said and done it is not the woman who is meant to pursue but the man, who is meant to pursue the woman. So if you know he is not capable to do that then pray and seek guidance over how to handle it, for it says HE who finds, not she who finds a good husband but he who finds a good wife obtains favour from the Lord.
THE DOWNFALL TO THIS GENERATION
• ACT ON LUSTFUL DESIRES
• WEAK MINDED LUKEWARM CHRISTIANS
• SEEK WORLDLY THINGS OVER GODLY THINGS
• PEOPLE PLEASERS
• LACK WISDOM AND THE ABILITY TO FOLLOW GODLY COUNSEL
• NOT ALL REALISE THEIR WORTH AND POTENTIAL
• SPEND TOO MUCH TIME ON SOCIAL NETWORKS, ALLOWING PEOPLE TO DEFINE THEM.
• OVERLOOK AND IGNORE THE SIGNS
• WAYWARD BEHAVIOUR WHEN GETTING INTO RELATIONSHIPS ETC
CONCLUSION: That comes to the end of this three part post to do with the argument for and against Christians being with unbelievers. One thing we can all agree on is that the word of God is not meant to be manipulated to suit ones situation, everything and anything is written in the bible. All it takes is for you to locate the scripture that best relates to you, pray over it for understanding and apply it to your own life. There will be people who say it is okay and others who say it is not okay, but no one can change what is written.
If really you find yourself in a situation where you are caught up with an unbeliever and or like one but don’t know what to do, pray over it there will always be a solution don’t worry about that. But it’s when you decide to act on your own reasoning that is where the problems start. I pray that for those who are in such situation to seek God and be led to do right but not pressured to do wrong and face the consequences in the long run. With ALL things NOT some things but with all things once God is at the centre of it, you shall not be led astray but be led on the right path because all in all He alone knows best.
I thank you for the lives of those reading these posts, I pray that whoever or whatsoever is hindering them and causing them to be led astray to cease from their lives now, you said in your word that you have a plan for each and every one of us for good and not evil, you indeed know best and not man. So Father please help your children who may feel as if they have no way out or in too deep to know that with you there is always a way out.
A way of hope, happiness, joy and love. No prayers we pray go up unanswered, you answer to our calls and always send down your response in various ways, to contact your children so Father I say thank you for what you have done what you are about to do and what you will do in future.