Dear Father, 

Thank you for your love and grace that is sufficient for all, thank you for never leaving us nor forsaking us, thank you for the word of God which never changes, is the same yesterday today and forever more. Thank you Father for everything and more importantly thank you for never being part time with us. In your mighty name we pray and we say Hallelouyah

As it says ‘Don’t rely on anyone’ I was speaking to a dear sister of mine about this and it is something that comes up often and in doing a reality check, came to the realisation that a weakness I had was relying on people. Yes this is a weakness because when you rely on people and they say they are going to do things and then don’t do it, you find your plans being messed up, taking longer than planned and just having that sense of frustration of thinking- it would have been better to do it myself, rather than to rely heavily on man. Because man is not perfect, they say things today and tomorrow it’s a different story, we have to be very careful at the level of reliance we place on people.

Everyone is going through something; we all have our own crosses to carry. But being that we are relational beings and need people, it can easily be misconstrued to mean that they will always be there when you need them to help with something. Now I'm not saying do it all yourself, what I am saying is don’t heavily rely on people to do things expecting it will turn out the way you want it to. You can’t entrust things 100% to just anyone cause then you will never get things done, so learn to trust in your capabilities too and remember that stepping out in faith to ensure things are done properly to a high standard, is not a bad thing.

But it is easier said than done and as it says in Romans 12:2 ‘Do not be CONFORMED to this world, but be transformed by the RENEWAL of YOUR MIND, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.’ Not all that is good is God and not all plans that you put in place does He want you to follow through on. So we must get to that level where we are productive in our works that is ordained by God and not man because it sounds good to the ears. We need to know that our hands are productive and not just busy, taking you away from the path God wants us to be on. That’s why it is important to keep all plans in prayer align it with the word and seek the purpose of it, is it worth doing? Has God said to do it? What is the benefit of doing this? Will it help advance the kingdom?

You see relying on people can have devastating effects, because the more you rely on people the more you’ll become stagnant, not doing anything because as far as you are concerned those people are the RIGHT people in your eyes to do the task at hand. No it is not always the case, we are not perfect but we serve a perfect God and indeed faith without works is dead – James 2: 26 ‘For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also.’

We all need to have the faith, but not to have faith to just entrust anyone to do the work, we need to do. We need to be sure we are aligned with the right people to help us and not throw all the work on them to do.

Step out in faith + trust + actions + God’s instruction = Fruitful results.

It is important as well to use our time wisely and not rely on man to do it all, especially not to look at numbers. Because two quality faithful people are more than enough to get the work done rather than five people or more who lack faith, substance, wisdom and direction to get the work done.

Learn as you go along to invest in yourself, pick out areas of weakness, areas which are strong, how you act around others, look at all these factors and more and develop on it to be and do better. You need to do this daily as well as having a close intimate relationship with God – like my sister put it ‘you are in private service with God working on you, and to the outside world you are under construction – once this period of time has been utilised then you are ready to go out again and make better choices with the strength to endure and know who is who.’

I used to be that lost woman who had her happiness planted into the actions of people and what they said to me. If someone says they are going to do something I would be happy and expectant. But humans beings would also bring disappointments. Then I would find myself back to square one and didn’t really learn until later on. That trusting and relying heavily on others can do more damage than good. I learnt the hard way after several disappointments that it is important to seek God in all you do to know the purpose of things and how to do it. Knowing all this helps you have a backbone, pushes you to pray more and read His word more. Yeshua when He was here on earth was disappointed and so we shouldn’t think that we too wont be disappointed, but it is important to know how to handle it. After all we are all limited resources and cant over stretch ourselves to please man at the expense of our peace, sanity and walk in Christ.


Look at the Israelite's they spent 40 years in the wilderness going around in circles, in disobedience, trusting in their own instincts, thinking they knew better, only to reach dead ends and have so much time wasted. This is what happens when you are not fully committed and reliant on God, you take path B when God is saying path A is the right one to take. Flesh will have you do what you want. God has good plans for us and not plans to ruin us, so by us not following His plan is foolish in itself, because it is saying we know ourselves more than He does. Then we miss our way and run back to Him again and again.

For the last half of this post would like to share the notes I took away from TD Jakes sermon titled – ‘The sparring partner’ I was blessed, convicted and speechless at how timely it was. To show me areas I needed to take up to God and things I needed to cut off.

The sparring partner – was defined as one who will challenge you, prepare you and uplift you for what is to come – like a boxer who is training with his sparring partner in the ring to prepare for a big fight. But one important key he highlighted was that when things happen we shouldn’t always be fast to blame the devil sometimes it is how God would allow it to be.

Because it is the adverse environments that prepare us ahead of time, prepare us and cause us not to rely on people’s words. Not everyone means well and some speak through a blur of deceptive ways. Life is a combination of good and bad – but it is those advancements that will cost you – the revelations, blessings and emotional physical growth.

He started of with the powerful verses in-

2 Corinthians 12:6-10 which reads ‘For though I would desire to glory, I shall not be a fool; for I will say the truth: but now I forbear, lest any man should think of me above that which he seeth me to be, or that he heareth of me. And lest I should be exalted above measure through the abundance of the revelations, there was given to me a thorn in the flesh, the messenger of Satan to strike me, lest I should be exalted above measure.


For this thing I besought the Lord thrice, that it might depart from me. And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.’

What I love about Apostle Paul here is how transparent and bold he was, to let us see the inner depth of His walk with God, He knew the standards of Christ and ensured he followed them, he condemned being too exalted and humbled himself to understand that thorns in the flesh are not there to punish us but teach us, strengthen us and keep us on track with renewed minds and spirits. We may not fully know what this so called thorn in the flesh actually was but whatever it was, was tough to handle so he went to God in prayer, to have it removed but God refused.

For Him to pray this must have meant it was very painful to bear and hard to cope with, but he was indeed persistent in his prayer – even though his prayer wasn’t answered in his pain, God enabled him to be stronger in character, wiser, humble and more sympathetic with others. This shows us the love he had for God and how in our trying times God can equip you with what you may not have prayed for, but what He knows you need. God has His ways of doing things, so we shouldn’t always think that His timing is ours, we should still pray, trust and believe in Him despite what comes our way.

Another important element to pick up on here is that though Paul prayed for healing he didn’t receive that right away, this showed me that what we think is right at the time to receive is not what God has in mind. His thoughts are not our thoughts and His ways are not our ways. But in all things never feel that God separates Himself from us and doesn’t care because He does more than you could ever imagine.

God’s power is indeed always displayed in our weakness, so that should encourage us, equip us and give us hope to endure. We all have limits we can’t do it all, but that is why we need to rely on God much more than we do on people (the people He created, the people He knows better than we do), it will enable us to be more effective in our walks to know all this, deepen our understanding and go to God in all things instead of man.

We tend to have the tendency to think that we have all we need, to be able to do what we need to do. But that opens the door for pride and self-gratification thinking we know best, giving tasks to the wrong people and then having it all crumble before us. It is important to humble ourselves let God fill us and move as He speaks and not before, because His plan for us is not to be weak and defeated but to be strong and able to handle what He gives us, even when obstacles and negative people show up. Our dependency on Him covers all this with the power to leave lasting results we wouldn’t have been able to achieve alone.

Going back to the sermon it is important to not compare ourselves to others, because many have a facade of what they want us to see and so you thinking they are reliable and true to their word, will not lead you down the right path if they aren’t even true to themselves.

Lastly coming on to the final point he touched on, our surroundings as being ‘controlled environments’ where the devil has to ask God for permission to afflict us (book of Job) It shows that God is in control of all things and nothing can get past Him, He may make way for the afflictions but it is not to punish us but to work on character and purge us of what we do not need.

So again in all things, rely on God and let Him guide you.

God bless you all