HELP ME IM A MESS - INTERNAL STRUGGLES (PART TWO).

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Internal battles are very dangerous and I know this very well, the internal struggles within that you do not hand over to God can do more damage than good, that is why I encourage self-checks and honesty and transparency with God – because there are times we may not always want to be open with people but we shouldn’t take that same stand point with God ever.

He created us and knows all our struggles so there is no need to try to hide anything from Him. I want to encourage you with this to know that no two days are the same, life will get tough and at times the thought of giving up seems sweeter than carrying on. But in the midst of it all we must ensure that we are surrendered to God and that any open wounds that have gone unseen must be given to God, because we are not only punishing ourselves but also those around us.

Heavy with issues but saying you are fine, does no one but only you harm. So rise above the mask lifestyle and give all to God, your hurts, your struggles, your pain. Be free – be healed – be joyful and at peace.

I had father wounds that needed healing and did struggle internally for some time and though I thought I was okay circumstances that took place caused me to sit up and really face my character and get healing and since coming out of that this year, I have never looked back.

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HELP IM A MESS – INTERNAL STRUGGLES (PART ONE).

Hey everyone,

Trust you are all well

Today we will be speaking on the internal struggles within; we can all agree that we live in a society which likes to make people act and feel as though they need to have everything together and cant show that there will be bad days and trying times.

The danger of wearing masks is that you ignore the danger signs of what needs work within; to help you improve and get better because you are living a life that is a fantasy and not the actual reality. When there are wars going on within you, you find that you internalise a lot and take things out on people, you live in denial and always assume that you are fine no matter what.

What we do not face now, we will have to face again sometime later and it could be worse at that moment, compared to the moment you realised it and ignored it. No one is perfect and life happens, but we need to act and apply on self-care to be able to be healthy internally and externally with what we take in and bring out into our environment.

The errors of overlooking something internally is that you will always point fingers at others, judge and think you are okay when in actual fact you are the problem. You are the toxic person and you need the work done on you. That is why it is so important to repent and heal, we are God’s masterpieces, He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things He planned for us long ago, as it states in Ephesians 2:10

Your character needs work, and if you do not address the internal battles within and carry the baggage how can God trust you, if you keep what He wants to work on and bless you through it?

 

REFLECTIVE POINTS-

- WHAT IS YOUR WALK IN CHRIST LIKE?

- HAVE YOU FORGIVEN YOUR PAST?

- HAVE YOU ALLOWED YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL?

-HOW OFTEN DO YOU PRAY?

- HOW OFTEN DO YOU STUDY THE BIBLE?

- WHAT IS YOUR COMMUNITY LIKE?

 

 

PART TWO TO FOLLOW

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THE DANGER OF ANGER

Hey everyone,

Trust you are all well  

Today we will be speaking about the danger of anger; before we begin we will be using the scripture below as reference-

Ephesians 4:26 ‘And don’t sin by letting anger control you, don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.’

The bible speaks clearly on anger, we are humans and we are all bound to get angry, life happens, people say and do things to try to push our buttons, and we aren’t perfect and are emotional beings. But in all of that it takes maturity to be able to not make and take decisions when you are angry, upset or sad.

Because more times you will look back and wish you had responded and made those decisions with a sound mind and clarity to act wisely. When you are in a good space, internally healthy and at peace things will fall into place and make sense.

 

Let us break down this scripture into manageable pieces-

‘AND DONT SIN BY LETTING ANGER CONTROL YOU’ – Anger has the stronghold over you to control you to do things you wouldn’t do if you were of sound mind and calmness, it will make you do things in that very moment that when you come out of it you will look back and wish you had applied wisdom.

Your emotions can control you and when acting in the flesh there is no limit to what you can do when angry because you are heated, you are feeding the flesh and you aren’t thinking logically and in turn those around you will also be affected by it.

“DONT LET THE SUN GO DOWN WHILE YOU ARE STILL ANGRY”-  Don’t let a day go by and you are still angry, when the sun goes down and night falls and we are still angry, chances are we will still feel that way the next day , hold grudges and live it out daily.

The sad thing is people look back and regret and wish they had handled things differently, but in the moment they weren’t thinking that way and let the day go by with the anger still intact. That is not the way and that doesn’t help anybody in the situation rather it makes it worse.

 

“FOR ANGER GIVES A FOOTHOLD TO THE DEVIL”- (GRIP – FOOTING)

Anger allows the devil to have a foothold in your life – so your anger opens you up to the traps of the devil, it’s in this manner that the devil is able to get a way in, to dictate your actions whilst in the anger mode, because you either have not dealt with that matter or prayed over it.

Once you are gripped by the devil, you are its tool and so to avoid that it is so important that we check ourselves daily, forgive and love easily and hold onto no grudges. We have God to help us and so we shouldn’t allow ourselves to fall short for what is most likely a temporary situation.

       REFLECTIVE POINTS-

-      CHECK YOUR HEART

-      DO SELFCHECKS DAILY

-      FORGIVE EASILY

-      PRAY MORE

-      STUDY THE WORD MORE ON THIS IF YOU STRUGGLE WITH THIS AREA  

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REVELATION FROM A TREE

JOHN 15 - JESUS THE TRUE VINE

“I am the true grapevine, and my Father is the gardener. 2 He cuts off every branch of mine that doesn’t produce fruit, and he prunes the branches that do bear fruit so they will produce even more. 3 You have already been pruned and purified by the message I have given you. 4 Remain in me, and I will remain in you. For a branch cannot produce fruit if it is severed from the vine, and you cannot be fruitful unless you remain in me.

5 “Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing. 6 Anyone who does not remain in me is thrown away like a useless branch and withers. Such branches are gathered into a pile to be burned. 7 But if you remain in me and my words remain in you, you may ask for anything you want, and it will be granted! 8 When you produce much fruit, you are my true disciples. This brings great glory to my Father.

9 “I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love. 10 When you obey my commandments, you remain in my love, just as I obey my Father’s commandments and remain in his love. 11 I have told you these things so that you will be filled with my joy. Yes, your joy will overflow! 12 This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you.

13 There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command. 15 I no longer call you slaves, because a master doesn’t confide in his slaves. Now you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me. 16 You didn’t choose me. I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce lasting fruit, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask for, using my name. 17 This is my command: Love each other.

 

On my way out a few mornings ago to see some clients, I was stuck in a bit of traffic and looked to my right and God began to speak me using the trees. The revelation was so deep and sweet and will share with you all. He began to show me the importance of the way the trees operated in the seasons and how important it was for the trees to have their branches, but yet all look different – when He said different He went on to talk about the roots being the same, they all need to be rooted in the soil to receive the nutrients and for those of us who paid attention in science class lol- will know the process of the roots – nutrients – photosynthesis and all.

The branches on the trees differed from tree to tree – some were completely bare with no leaves, some had leaves and others had different coloured leaves. But yet they were all still trees- we wouldn’t look at them and say that because some don’t have leaves that they aren’t trees, that wouldn’t make sense. With this I began to see that even though they all had a different amount or nothing at all they were all blossoming but at different stages and so the outlook wouldn’t always match each other. Whilst some are bare, some are full, yet whilst some are small in vine, others are wide and thick in vine.

 

REFLECT-

How do you portray yourself?

What is your character like?

 

Yet they are all still known as trees and to place this analogy with human beings – to you someone may look average, but you do not realise what they carry and what they can do, God is taking them on a journey and it may not be obvious to the natural eye – but their set time to blossom is coming, whilst the set time for their neighbour is now. We all have different set times, no two times are the same but you are not disqualified just because you haven’t blossomed yet, it just means your journey is different to your neighbours.

That is why it is not wise to compare to other human beings, because no matter what you will not be like them and they will not be like you. It is important to not let the cares of this world and ungodly desires make you compare yourself to another imperfect human being and then get frustrated when things don’t work out for you, in terms of you not getting what they have.

What you look like – how you sound – the way you do things and how you think is different to the next person so when you try to compete you are already losing and doing disservice to not appreciating and valuing who God has called you to become. BUT what we do all have in common is that we are all rooted in Christ and this alongside another powerful thing, that when you look at the trees you notice that they are close together – the distances aren’t that great or wide and so how are you with others? Are you close to them? Do you support them, love them and shine together as well as trying to shine alone? How are you in community?

Such a powerful point to take away, though the trees all looked different, blossoming at different times they still all had close proximity to each other. Being close would mean no competition, no envy, but growing and thriving amongst each other with no ulterior motives.

So check your ways, is it more of self or more of helping and supporting others?

Be blessed as you read this and know that inward change is key and your outlook on life.

GOD BLESS

CHILDHOOD HURTS - ARE YOU REALLY DELIVERED?

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Rev 21:4 ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever.” We can look forward to this, look to God in everything and get your healing to progress and not stay bound.

Today we will be talking about childhood hurts, this is something that I myself had been on a journey on once upon a time, to learn about and heal from. Because remember in life everything that we do, think or feel, most times have a root that can be linked to our past, going as far as childhood and if it is not dealt with can affect us in a major way in different friendships, relationship and with family too.

Childhood hurts for many could involve abuse – physical, mental, emotional you name it, lack of family units, bullying, self image issues, not feeling good enough etc.

The foundations that we have known, which have shaped our minds and actions to some extent, can be tainted and unhealthy. For so long that baggage of the past has then been on many people’s shoulders and the question one must ask is “are you really delivered?” Have you really let God in to deal with deeper issues of self you either don’t think about or have suppressed it for so long. To be delivered from what others did to you, as well as receiving the inner healing you so desperately need to be made whole and set free and not repeating life in cycles.

As a qualified counsellor the journey to this point has taught me so much more about people’s behaviour, their speech, feelings and view points on things. You find that a lot of people have deep wounds from parents and people from their past that have done them wrong and they have lived in the hurt for so long that they no longer know or even recognise who they are.

One thing I want to say and standby is that the moment you take your hurts to God, repent, seek forgiveness as well as forgive those who wronged you, will bring you healing, growth and a healthier mindset that no one can take the credit for. But if you do not take the steps to speak up and do what is right for you, you’ll find that you will keep staying and repeating in disappointments, self-sabotage, grudges, anger and setbacks. Don’t ever let the things of old and what people have done to you affect you so much that you lose your peace, guidance, joy and happiness.

This is not to justify or water down what you have been through, not at all. But to get you to sit up and let this post push buttons that need to be pushed and lead you back to our Father for your healing.

Playing the victim never gets anyone anywhere, it only keeps you stagnant wanting sympathy and when that is not shown you react and think everyone is against you. No special one- that is toxic living and you need to receive the deliverance that will take you from where you are now to a better, more fulfilling place in Christ.

This topic has been heavy on my heart for while, probably more now than before because I counsel people and see and feel the pain when they share things.

Let this be a starting point to get you thinking and take all hurts back to God and if you believe you are okay, still go back to God and ask Him to show you your heart and if here is anything you need to let go of.

Praying for you all and pray that this post will convict you and get you closer to Abba Father to help you heal and move forward in a healthier way.

 

Loving you in prayer

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