We thank you for being our Father, loving, forgiving and always there for us to be able to call on in all that we go through. Father I pray that in all things we will learn to go to you first, may we not get distracted by the things of this world or others, may we never be led astray by our thoughts and in all things prayer and the word will always be first and never last. Thank you Father for all you do for us, Monday to Sunday 24 hours a day you are there for us always, you have not gone on leave and love us all the same. Thank you, we love you very much and always will.
In my current season and the previous one God has been working on my character in more ways than one. *Transparency moment* though difficult it has pushed me to really delve deeper to get to the root of why I am the way I am, the effect my past has had on me and more importantly what to do to avoid going back to the old ways.
In this season in particular God has been showing me the importance of communication with others and why as relational beings we need to be able to do so, though uncomfortable and hard to take in- reason why I say this is because I have grown up with the mentality that if you don’t call me I won’t call you, if you don’t reach out to meet up I won’t. In the past I have always been the one to reach out regardless and when I wasn’t always getting it back, it hurt and I stopped doing it and just lived with the mentality to put me first and save my time. So when God was showing me this it was difficult to hear as I have always been one way as opposed to reaching out to others whether they do it first or not.
Having that mentality stayed with me and in my recent season away God just instructed me to not do any work but just to seek Him, refocus and get direction. The main thing He wanted me to understand is that communication is key in the kingdom but many of us do not communicate well and division occurs. Because of the cliques formed many are used to those they are close to and not others outside of that clique, so they stay knowing that once they are close to those people they are comfortable with, do not feel the need to interact with others.
He’s helping me understand that when He called me into ministry one of the things I needed to do more of is to show love and support and to communicate with people better. I can’t make it about me all the time. Everyone is going through something and many are battling in secret, so a simple call, text or meet up goes a long way to help a sister or brother in Christ. The moment we became born again all our personal desires and self-ways had to part from us, we no longer made it about us but about those we are called to serve. So it is selfish of me to think about myself and be kept bound by the past experiences.
QUESTIONS TO REFLECT ON….
HOW WOULD YOU RATE YOUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS WITH THOSE AROUND YOU?
ARE YOU HAPPY WITH HOW YOU COMMUNICATE WITH OTHERS?
DO YOU PRAY OVER THIS AREA AS MUCH AS OTHER AREAS?
I was speaking to a dear sister of mine about this area recently and all she said was just confirmation for what God was showing me. One of the main points she highlighted is that relationships are suffering in the kingdom, people need to go back to the basics to build on relationships, what happened to the days where we kept it basic, and cut out all distractions, go for walks, go to each others places and talk chill and pray. What happened to the days where people actually care and want to genuinely know about your issues, your day and how you are doing??? It is like people have jumped from basic level to advanced level in knowing people and all of a sudden youre sisters. But we are missing out on major parts of communicating to really get to know those we call sisters.
Do we check on people? Do we make time to see them? Do we believe that we are good friends when it comes to communication/ time catching up with others???
There needs to be more transparency, love, support and unity shown, how can we grow together and develop together and do what God has called us to do if we still have this me mentality, closed nature and one not embracing of others and how they feel? Change has to come, not only for our generation but to leave a good example for the upcoming generation. It is important to keep this in mind pray over it and make that change.
This is an area I have heard a few people talk about but another thing it reminds me of is that we are all fast to complain about what is not right but never step out to make that change due to many factors such as fear, doing it alone, people not understanding you name it. But you see you do not need to have the affirmations of man. If you strongly believe change has to come go ahead and make that change, pray over it and let God use you.
One thing the EUW ministry strives to bring is unity amongst us all, there is a lot of work that needs to be done, but change must happen, strong units must be developed and people need to be assured that they are not alone, they do have people around who can pray and encourage them, but not to take it upon themselves to try to do it all alone.
Do not punish yourself because you feel that you will be a burden to someone, pray and let God reveal to you those who you can open up to and will help you. Do not suffer in silence behind the good clothes, make up, nice hair etc. You deserve to be at peace, you deserve to get the strength to defeat those strongholds, you deserve to have joy, you deserve the blessings of the Lord and you deserve to grow and be used to make a change in others’ lives.
Here are a few scriptures to do with communication to encourage you –
-JAMES 1:19 ‘My beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.’
- EPHESIANS 4:29 ‘Let no corrupt commmnication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.’
-PROVERBS 15:2 ‘The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright, but the mouth of fools pours out foolishness.’
-PROVERBS 16:23 ‘The heart of the wise teacheth his mouth, and addeth learning to his lips.’
- PROVERBS 13:17 ‘A wicked messenger falls in mischief but a faithful ambassador is health.’
I WANT TO LEAVE YOU WITH THIS LAST POINT TO PONDER ON… WHEN COMMUNICATING WITH OTHERS, ASK YOURSELF –
- IS IT TRUE?
- IS IT KIND?
- IS IT NECESSARY?
GOD BLESS YOU ALL AND BE ENCOURAGED.