Hello Ladies, 


‘For your Creator will be your husband; the Lord of Heaven’s Armies is his name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.’

I will be sharing from the scripture Isaiah 54:5, I have read it and heard it many times, but today I saw it in a different way. Though the verse above it speaks on a woman who has lost her husband not being fearful of shame, disgrace and the sorrows of widowhood.

‘Fear not; you will no longer live in shame.
    Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you.
You will no longer remember the shame of your youth
    and the sorrows of widowhood.’

I saw it to include myself and all women not just widows, it spoke to me beautifully from a place of intimacy, the woman is assured that she will no longer face what she had been facing whether amongst friends, family, community etc. Then goes on to say the creator will be her husband, the one who is the Lord of Heavens Armies, our redeemer and the Holy One Of Israel. How beautiful to know this?

I want to focus more on ‘For your creator will be your husband’ for the purpose of this blog post. For a woman to call a man her husband it would have taken a lot of honesty, prayer, transparency, comfortability with the man, her bearing all and him bearing all too. There would have to have been a high level of intimacy especially – she needed to be sure he was the one and that his words matched up to his actions.

Because for better or worse, come what may they would be living as one in union with Christ at the centre, so a lot of preparation would have been needed- she would essentially be letting the man lead the household, provide, love her and the children, remain faithful and honest as well as to protect her physically, emotionally and spiritually.

When we go on to look at a husband we can see the responsibility he has to carry for the home, to lay down his life and let God equip him to lead her and the children and do the best for them. But essentially he will have Christ at the centre of it all – whether his actions, his mind, his desires, his career, etc. He is fully accountable for all he does and must uphold the vows he made at the altar to his wife.

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What I love about the verse in question is that it says God will be your husband- for God to be your husband means he will care for you, provide for you, reveal to you, share with you your pain, strengthen you, equip you, comfort you and love you beyond human reasoning and love.

He will cover you, but it also takes you doing your own part too, you have to be open, honest , sincere, intimate, transparent and open to correction. Because there then becomes a deeper level of intimacy and love that forms in God being this, with those who have lost someone, preparing to marry and or even divorced. He takes on the burdens and helps you heal and prepare for what is ahead. Different to Him being a friend, He goes deeper and is much more to you.

But again it takes a lot from your end too and to be able to learn and take away from it, what will prepare you and encourage you to do and be better. For example your heart will be exposed, areas you thought you had healed from will be exposed, your mind will be tested, your spirit will be fed, and your actions will change. Because you are being exposed to someone who has the permission to get up close and personal to you, to be in your space and see you in a different way to how others will see you. I’m reminded of the scripture that says –

Revelation 3:20 ‘Look I stand at the door and knock’. (He will never force His way in, He gives you the choice).

‘If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in..’ (IF –So you need to be discerning for His voice and not distracted by the things of this world, because when He comes He will speak, but are you listening?)

‘and we will share a meal together as friends..’ (He will come in when you respond and when He does He will eat with you, share with you, speak to you and work with you.) But you need to be willing and open to receiving Him into your heart and not just outside of it.

Let us now look at Ephesians 5:25- 31 and pick out the key points of a husbands role to his wife-

-          To love His wife, just as Christ loved the church, he gave up his life for her to make her HOLY and CLEAN- Washed by the cleansing of God’s word. – So beautiful to know that as led by example, the man is to use the word of God as His main tool to love his wife and make her holy and clean.

-          Just as having God as your husband He will work on you and purge you of ways that will draw you down, teach you what it is to love, heart matters and becoming who He has called you to be. Again you as the woman would have to be willing and teachable.


-          He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish- So it’s not enough to speak on it, but his actions must be evident to be able to present his wife without spot or wrinkle, to work deep on areas of hurt, pain and past unresolved issues. A job he can’t afford to take lightly.


-          Husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. – The husband can’t be selfish or self-centred, they must be selfless and have a love originating from Christ and in Christ. To love as he loves himself is a deeper kind of love that daily needs to be worked on, but with Christ at the centre he will do the best and be the best definition of love to his wife.

-          Same way Christ loves us; the husband will learn this and love the woman, despite her flaws, shortcomings and tough days. Because he made that commitment before God, he will as well honour it in all he does for his wife.


-      Honours you

-      Is selfless

-      Carries the power of God

-      Doesn’t withhold from his wife

-      Presents his bride to God throughout their lives as perfectly holy and virtuous as can be --To lead his wife and his family into the best things for them.

-To be the best that he can be in God's power

So ladies take it all to God, your heart and your issues and let him comfort you, just as a husband comforts, a father cares, a brother protects. Let God be the all in one that you need, despite the level you are at in life.



Hello Ladies,

It has been a long time I blogged or shared any type of writing content, but I’m back with more content as shared with me from our Father and I believe it will bless you all.

If you follow our social media platform you will see that we are currently in a series titled #HeartIssues. Something that has been a burden on my heart for so long and God spoke to me a lot about it during my time away and this is what is being shared in this series. I love it because it highlights our imperfections and why we really need God, He is the only one who can see our flaws and short comings and not turn His back on us, belittle us or reject us. Sometimes people can’t help and aren’t able to say the right things, love them anyway they just don’t have the capacity to handle the pain you are carrying for a greater purpose. Give it all to God.

Have you ever thanked God for your pain and suffering? Have you thanked God for people who have left your life? Have you thanked God for those friendships that ended? That job loss? The heartbreak in that toxic relationship?

Some of you might say no, reason being no one loves pain and when it comes can stop us in our tracks and keep us questioning if really God sees all we are going through. But on the flip side of all my struggles, rejection, heartbreak, suicidal tendencies, job loses, depression, betrayal, self harming and more. As I began to get closer to God He made me see and realise and even thank Him until now for all that I suffered in my past, crazy right? LOL no not at all, because now I see the purpose that was formed from my pain and I had to go through all I did to be able to help other women come out of it to – hence my purpose to help the broken and help women realise their self-worth and calling just some of the important things Empowered United Women Ministry deals with. How can you relate to people when you haven’t been there before?

You see when you are in the pain you don’t understand why, you doubt, you cry, you want to give up. But never really do you thank God for it and embrace it with a joyful heart. Yes it is hard and far from a walk in the park but look at what God says in James 1:2 ‘Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy.’

The CONSIDER in this verse can be seen to mean – to think carefully about something, before making a decision, to be drawn towards a course of action, to look attentively at something.

I pondered on why it says that when troubles come our way that we ought to consider it a chance for great joy. I then realised that with reference to Romans 8:28 all things will work together for our good and just because something is tough today doesn’t mean we will stay in that situation forever, it is important for us to have unmoveable and unshakeable faith and joy in the Lord when trials come, because when we are able to take our focus off of the situation and onto God, our joy will override what the circumstance is showing us.


But when you keep your focus on what is shaky and moveable you lose yourself in it and overlook what it should be teaching you. When I thank God for trying times, its because I know that He knew ahead of time all the mistakes I will make and the pain I would endure and still predestined for this to be part of my story – believing that I will be strong enough, to not waiver but stand strong in it. Whewww!!! this God is amazing, I cannot bow down to fear when my God is big enough to take me through what is supposed to have ended me, had we served a man we will always be lost and a victim to pain and struggle.  

I just want to encourage you all that with God you can do all things, you can move mountains, you can speak and things change, you can speak and people are healed. The power you carry should not be underestimated for a moment, because when you do that you place God in a box of limitations and try to take the upper hand to write your story. That in itself is error, God created you and knows you by name He sees your weaknesses and still called you, He knew you would be the solution for a problem here on earth no one else can fulfil but you. And above all you are like no other and no other is like you, that is your power. So don’t water down who you are based on what you pass through, rather get up each day knowing who you are and whose you are and walk in purpose make the devil mad that you didn’t give up or turn your back on God.

So whatever you are going through give it to God today, don’t make it complicated He wants to hear from you and His healing is available don’t count yourself out. If you were perfect you wouldn’t need God, but rather we are imperfect people serving a perfect God who has all we need. Matthew 6:33 says to ‘seek the kingdom of God, above all else and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need. ‘

But how can you seek a God you don’t know and don’t give your hurts to? He knows you so be intentional to know Him too and cut out what will distract you from receiving your healing. The moment you take your focus off of God, you’ve lost it. Don’t be that person who couldn’t endure the pain for that moment and lost everything due to impatience and disobedience.

 Be blessed and follow the #HearIssues series.

Here for anyone who wants to pray and to talk.

Love you and God loves you so much more.




Hello Ladies, 

Although this part of the campaign is to do with comparison and envy, want to rely heavily on comparison. Comparison can be defined as a likening or something or someone that you want to have or be like. Comparing someones ways to the way you are. Not being content with who you are, so then going by what you see others doing and having and wanting to be like that, whilst comparing what you can do, to be like them. 

Comparison I always say is soo toxic and makes you want to be who you dont understand, but just based on what you see. In James 4 it speaks of jealousy, which when linked here one can say that you get jealous of another and then compare what they have to what you have and go as far as questioning yourself.

JAMES 4:1-3 'What is causing the quarrels and fights amongst you? Dont they come from evil desires at war within you? You want what you dont have, so you scheme and kill to get it. You are jealous of what others have, but you cant get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them.' CHECK YOUR HEART!!!!!!

Look at how the bible speaks about jealousy it shows you how toxic such ways can be and if not corrected can drive people to the extreme. Putting others and themselves in danger. I for one used to be hot on comparing to others. Whether it was our achievements, our relationships, hair, skin. You see social media if you are not disciplined and content within, you will be swayed by comparison left right and centre. Simply because you do not see or have an idea of what those people go through. People show you what they want you to see at the click of a button. And what is sad is that some make you feel beneath them, simply because their current season is good, but just as seasons change, our seasons too in our lives wont always be easy or great. 

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We need to remember that as believers life wont always be rosy as others seem to keep selling this lie. Yes there will be good days and bad days too but that shouldn't make you be content in comparing to others. Your level 1 may be someones level 5 so be very careful when you compare to what you have no complete understanding on. 

I for one used to compare a lot because what I saw was not what I had or was enjoying. I would be in tough seasons and look at people on social media and begin to compare and question why things are the way they are for me, but always good for them. But God made me understand the danger of comparison not just that, but also asked a Q would I want to take on their sacrifices, or their trials and tribulations? From then on I began to become more content with my portion and what He had called me to do. 

Dont let comparison rob you of your peace and joy, no two people are the same, neither do they do the same things, like the same things, look the same etc. As I always remind myself God is a God of diversity and originals, not counterfeits and copies. When you know this you will give God thanks always and not envy or compare to what you see out there. You dont know what others are doing to get what they have. So learn to focus on your path and do not be misled by emotions. 














Hello Ladies,

Rejection can be defined as the act of pushing someone away. You may experience rejection from family of origin, a friend, or a romantic partner, and the resulting emotions can often be painful. Rejection might be experienced on a large scale or in small ways in everyday life. While rejection is typically a part of life, some types of rejection may be more difficult to cope with than others.’

If there is any area I know too well it is rejection, rejection from friends and in relationhips. When rejection took place I never knew how to handle it, I lost myself in the negativity and pain of others, I would think I was not good enough based off of the treatment I received from others. But later on when I let God in, I realised and learnt that I cannot control the actions of others, neither can I change people and definately cant expect them to treat me good based on me treating them good. 

On one occasssion I faced rejection which really took a lot out of me, was when I was cheated on countless times and dumped, faced many things, put to the side and then asked to be the side chick. Because I did not know myself worth, I allowed a lot which should have avoided, walked away from and prayed over. But being that I was naive and weaker in my walk back then a lot of what I experienced at times was self inflicted because what I was entertaining was what God would have saved me from. But thanks be to God and His grace and mercy for delivering me and setting me free from all that I endured.


You have to be very careful to not let imperfect people who are not sure of themselves define and put you down you have to come to an understanding of who you are and whose you are. Or else you will allow many things to stagnate you in mess.

When rejected and you question yourself, you entertain a low sense of self, you lose yourself, you dont know your identity, you water down your capabilities and on top of that you accept lower than you deserve because you always use the yardstick of man to move by and so by doing that, you cannot progress to do and be better. You will forever be bound to the toxic thoughts of men and their ways. But the moment you break out and break free and use Christ as your standard you will surpass all the negativity and traps and be in the positon where God wants you to be and that alone is all that matters.

God loves us, He calls us His own, we are cherished, beautiful, a royal priesthood and able to do great and mighty things once we believe this and know who we are. Step out and be bold you may be rejected by man, but not by God.








Be encouraged and know that your past doesnt define you, it rather teaches you and helps to build you up to learn, grow and be positioned to where God wants to allign you to operate from. I pray this blessed and encouraged you in some way. Loving you in prayer.

God richly bless you all




Hello Ladies,

Self-Esteem can be defined as the opinion of how we see ourselves, so when we have a healthy self-esteem, we tend to feel positive about ourselves and about life in general. But when our self-esteem is low, we tend to see ourselves and our life in a more negative and critical light.’

Today want to tackle briefly the sensitive area of self-esteem, I for one can relate to this area for many reasons, one being the labels that were enforced on me growing up and in my teenage years. I struggled with identity, not really knowing who I was, I would allow so much to enter my mind and let it stay there as I lived it out so my view on self and live was tainted and very damaging. When you don’t know who you are you allow anyone who has no right to define you, label you and have control over what you say to yourself and how you treat yourself.

That is why it is so so important to know whose you are and who you are because then that alone is the power you carry against any negativity and critics. Yes, people will always have something to say, but those same imperfect people have different mindsets, different opinions, different likes and dislikes so anything they say about you wont always be the same as the next person.

So, imagine trying to people please all these people, living by what they tell you.. Damaging right? Well that was me for some time, because I was lost, I had no direction, no wisdom or sense of belonging and always tried to fit in with what people wanted me to be and most times because they didn’t know themselves they tried to put that on me. It was like the lost leading the lost, the blind leading the blind. It was never going to end well unless someone broke out of it and got better for themselves. Thank God for saving me, I write this saved and being that I was unsaved before, I knew no better.

Notice the definition of self-esteem says its how we see ourselves, so if we see ourselves low, we then give permission for others to see us in the same way we too see ourselves and that can be very damaging, because in a place where there is constant negativity and drama, you can never grow and go beyond your current level. It is not really just about how you see yourself, because most times that is what people see and feed off, so you can then allow and know who to let close based on the signs of you seeing how they would treat you.

I battled with it for years, was it tough yes? Did I have good counsel around me? No not always, or in fact they were there but never really understood. You see the people around you should be able to uplift you and encourage you and if that is not always the case pray over it, because you really need to have people around you who you can grow with not stay at one place with. So all these different elements of self come into play-

-       How do you see yourself?

-       How do others around you see you?

-       Do you know whose and who you are?

-       Do you see yourself in a positive way?

-       Do I know what the word of God says about me?

To name a few.

For now this is where I will leave it short and sweet to encourage and remind someone that they are precious, beautiful, enough and not who people define them to be. Know who you are and there will be no room to allow negativity in your life.

God bless you all