EMPOWERING WOMEN (I)
Hope you’re all doing well and everything in your life right now is going to plan.. If not and things are weighing you down simply take it to the Lord in prayer and it shall be well with you.. There is nothing too hard that God cannot do so don’t lose focus, hold onto your faith and be encouraged. God has brought you this far and will not leave you at this time in your life.
I’ve chosen to write this blog post titled EMPOWERING WOMEN, because I feel that as young women of God obstacles may come, the wrong people may approach you with bad intentions, you may lose focus, feel discouraged and well there are things we as young women of God face, life is not easy but the beauty of it is that we have God 24/7 to help us, encourage us, support us, bless us, strengthen us and do soo much for us on a daily basis. That alone is enough to make you lift your head up and smile to face another day, another challenge and people. YOURE NOT ALONE.
Food for thought… Wouldn’t it be great if women could work together more, empowering each other rather than hating on each other, talking bad about one another? We can progress as a gender and show people that women can actually work together and achieve something far better in life, to be a productive citizen of society…
As a woman of God reaching out to fellow women of God, I thought it best to rely on the book of RUTH and the book of ESTHER for this three part blog post. In this particular post I will focus more on three important aspects, in the second post focus more on RUTH and in the third post focus on ESTHER.
‘WHAT STARTS AT HOME GROWS AND DEVELOPS ELSEWHERE’
This brings me to HOME TRAINING:
PROVERBS 22:6 ‘Train up a child in the way they should go and when they are old will not depart from it.’
EXODUS 20:12 ‘Honour thy Father and thy Mother; that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.’
The women we have become today is not by our might alone, but home training played a vital part, with the home training we received up until the age where we became able to make our own decisions and do things for ourselves. But first and for most we must acknowledge that it was God who took us through it all up until now. People, obstacles and changes all had a part to play, to better ourselves on this journey we call life. The importance of a solid family structure in the household is where you were taught many things from your parents on what to do, what not to do, how to be careful of people you call friends, how to greet elders, manners etc etc. There was always something new to learn from them. On the flip side some of you women may not have grown up in the nuclear family setting, but did have a mother alone or father alone to help raise you. Whatever the family situation was with you, we had parent(s) who contributed to our growth and reasoning.
Colossians 3:20 ‘Children, obey your parents in ALL things; for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.’ So even before our time it was written to obey our parents and stipulated also in the Ten Commandments.
At what age should you discipline a child? If I had to answer this, hypothetically speaking I would say from a very young age not when it’s too late for the parent to not be able to handle their children. Discipline is essential at those stages to straighten your path and help you grow to know better and learn from mistakes as you go along. However external influences such as friends can also play a part in how we act, there were good friends and there were bad friends. Let’s face it wherever we go there is good and there is also bad, some get easily influenced by friends and others don’t but either way we can all say lessons were learnt, and as we grow wiser by experience the trust factor begins to play a key role in our life. Who we let close, who we speak to and who we give the title ‘FRIENDS’ to, also bearing in mind that friends can also become family too.
EXPERIENCE IS THE BEST TEACHER OF ALL THINGS. IT HELPS YOU TO LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES SO THAT YOU CAN MOVE ON TO PREVENT IT FROM HAPPENING IN THE FUTURE. BETTER YOURSELVES BETTER THAN BEFORE, A FEW DAYS AGO, OR LAST WEEK.
So when you do look back and reflect on life, it should only be to see how far you’ve come and nothing else. The past is the past, but the home training is still an important factor in our lives of growth and development in disciplining the child.
1 CORINTHIANS 6:19 ‘What? Know ye not that YOUR body is the TEMPLE OF THE HOLY GHOST which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own.’
GIVE THAT TO THE SPECIAL ONE AND ONLY THEM, GOD SENT AND DOES RIGHT BY U AS LOVING MAN OF GOD AND NOT SIN ..LADIES A MAN OF GOD DESERVES THIS AND ONLY THEM GIVE YOUR ALL TO THEM AND INCLUDE GOD EACH STEP OF THE WAY.
Ladies it’s important to believe in yourself know your worth and walk with boldness as a young woman of God pursuing the right things. Daily meditation and prayer to strengthen your relationship with God, is very important. Let no man trouble your heart, affect your self- esteem by negativity and put you down, where you begin to question yourself and allow guys have their way with you, or seeking pleasure in a man to feel worthy. First of no man should have that hold or power over you to forget who you are in the process.
Our bodies are not our own but God’s own, so when you allow a man have his way with you after knowing what God has said to abstain from all sexual immorality, you are then punishing your own body and disobeying God’s word. It is better to keep yourself, work on being better and allow God do the rest to attract the best and nothing less. If you don’t respect yourself and your body as a woman, how can you expect guys to treat you right how you ought to be treated? People will treat you how you allow them to treat you by your actions and what you say.
Time again I hear stories of women letting themselves go, because they find satisfaction in guys who make them feel some way. But sadly enough in a messed up generation where sexual immorality is high, they forget that when you place all of your feelings and efforts into man for TEMPORARY situations and feelings, there is a higher chance of getting disappointed because humans aren’t consistent in their actions. They can be nice with you today but tomorrow turn against you. You’re only setting yourself up for disappointments.
ONLY God can be trusted 100% in His perfect ways, humans aren’t perfect and so there’s more risk in giving your all to them and getting nothing back. Be careful with how you act and who you let close; only God should be let in fully to take care of you and point you in the right direction. As young women of God it is important to be a reflection of Christ, so that others may see God in us and we too may be an encouragement to them, to allow God use us to help them. There are people who won’t believe in God until they see proof He is real or that God is working in our lives.
That’s okay they may not have experienced God fully to know that God is awesome, with time they will get to know about Him. We as ambassadors of Christ can only serve God with a pure clean heart chasing after Him and not man. As it is written in ll Corinthians 6:14-17: ‘BE NOT UNEQUALLY YOKED (AS IN LIGHT AND DARK CANT MIX, UNCLEAN HANDS CANT MIX WITH CLEAN HANDS)..
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said:
I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.
Therefore, come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.’
COMMENTARY: THE TRUTH..THATS THE PROBLEM WITH MOST WOMEN TODAY INCLUDING MYSELF.. WE HAVE A BAD HABIT OF GOING BACK TO THE SAME ONE WHO CONTINUALLY MESSES UP, BUT SAYS THE RIGHT THINGS LEADING TO FALSE HOPES.. INSTEAD OF MOVING AWAY FROM THAT GUY WE GO BACK AND IT NEVER GETS BETTER. BUT BECAUSE OF FEELINGS WE GET SUCKED INTO A MAKE BELIEVE BUBBLE THINKING YES HE SAID HE WILL CHANGE BUT REALLY HE HAS NO INTENTION OF DOING SO.. HIS WORDS AND ACTIONS CONTRADICT. YOU BECOME STRONGER AND REGAIN YOUR SANITY WHEN U LET GO OF HIM AND ALLOW GOD HEAL U, TO GIVE YOU THE BEST.
A WEAK MAN CAN’T HANDLE A STRONG WOMAN OF GOD AND SO THAT’S WHERE TROUBLE COMES AND CONTINUOUS MELTDOWNS.. BECAUSE HE SEES HOW STRONG SHE IS IN CHRIST HE KNOWS HE’S DEFEATED BY THAT AND GOD SUPPORTNG HER. BUT A STRONG MAN WILL CONTINUE TO ENCOURAGE A WOMAN OF GOD LEAD HER CLOSER TO GOD, PRAY WITH HER, PROTECT&GUARD HER FOR HE KNOWS HER WORTH AND THE GOD SHE SERVES..
COMMENTARY: YESSS AMEN AND AMEN TO THIS.. NO WORD OF A LIE.. THE RELATIONSHIP/PERSON YOURE SEEING IS IT GOD OR SATAN FATHERING IT??? A RELATIONSHIP BASED ON AND THAT BEGAN WITH SIN IS FATHERED BY SATAN, SATAN USES YOUR WEAKNESS TO MAKE U FEEL ITS OKAY TO KEEP SINNING.. BUT A RELATIONSHIP THAT BEGAN AND STILL FLOWS WITH CHRIST WILL WORK OUT MUCH STRONGER.
Also how you present yourself and the way you dress is also important, people who approach you will notice that first. It’s important as a woman of God to dress in a respectable way that will show a reflection of a God fearing beautiful woman. Because really we are all a representation of God, His daughters He created uniquely so in turn dress to match up to those standards. A woman of God will know the importance of covering up because her body is not like a painting on a wall to be put on show for all to see. (YOU CAN ASWELL BE BEAUTIFUL FULLY CLOTHED, YOU DONT HAVE TO SHOW FLESH TO BE BEAUTIFUL, THAT JSUT ATTRACTS THE WRONG MEN). She respects herself, walks with class and dignity and loves God soo much to follow Him and not the crowds of how society sees women and how they expect women to dress (revealing flesh or even in some cases next to nothing) And seen as a body is a temple of God it is one of the best ways to follow God’s word.
Commentary: wrong choices in the past will lead to the right one for the future, they were just making u realize the best is not in them but the next that’s to come” “A guy who doesn’t cherish a good woman of God is simply telling God he doesn’t appreciate a good thing and simply anything that comes his way” “A good man leads a woman to God and uplifts her not drags her to sin”
‘One who lives according to the moral principles in the scriptures renews their minds daily to possess a strong mind.’ Ask yourself are your thoughts and actions aligned with the word of God, do your actions represent Christ in a good way? The positive mind is of God and knows God will surely see them through no matter what comes their way. Whereas a negative mind will only bring forth doubt, fear and discouragement, it’ll be like you believe in God but not fully to have faith and trust in Him to see you through. So you try to handle your burdens alone, carrying all problems on your shoulders thinking only you can solve them. That is not the case, things we go through cannot be solved by our might alone, God’s intervention is what will help see us through and give us the confidence and courage to face obstacles and in turn encourage others. BE ENCOURAGED, GOD IS WITH YOU, TELLING YOU TO PUT ALL YOUR FAITH AND TRUST IN HIM, YOU CANT MAKE IT ALONE AND YOUR SHOULDNT FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO..
1 Corinthians 15:33-34 ‘Be not deceived, evil communication corrupts good manners. Awake to righteousness, and sin not, for some have not the knowledge of God; I speak this to your shame..’
When I look at these verses, I see the importance of a strong mind, especially in this messed up generation. I say this because there are quite a few fake, deceitful Christians, who will go to church and call themselves Christians thinking that is enough to be a good Christian and make Heaven. Not realising that there is much more to being a good Christian than that, e.g Evangelising, supporting each other, following the commandments, praying, praise and worship daily, practising the word in our everyday lives, forgiving others, obedience and more. So what some try to do and sadly live by, is manipulating the word of God to justify their sinful ways saying ‘well I can keep on sinning because God forgives’, but a sin that is knowingly done is taking advantage of God and His love for us. Yes He is a forgiving God but when you know something is a sin pray to break the evil yokes of sin distracting you and allow God have His way.
So those same Christians will come and try to preach to you, when within them they aren’t pure neither do they know the word. So a real genuine Christian who knows God and the word can in turn stand up for themselves and defend the word quoting what is actually right to do and not what they think is right. Because the power of God is released when you speak, your heart is clean and you’re allowing God use you to spread the word the right way. You cannot be deceived but rather put the enemy to shame by practicing what is good and saying what is right.
1 Peter 5:8 ‘Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.’
You see the devil is around and keen on destroying God’s children, He will also manipulate the weaker Christians and make them think their sins are acceptable and that way of living is okay. So when you see weaker Christians doing wrong don’t point fingers or judge them simply take it to the Lord in prayer and have Him take over, ONLY God can fight such battles, not us no matter how much of the word we quote or how we practice living a good life daily. There are some battles which need to be left to God.
How to develop a strong mind is through meditation, one mustn’t get easily tempted by sin to allow it destroy your mind, body and soul. Pray for God to help with whatever sin it might be that is holding you back from receiving your blessings and growth in Christ. Therefore a strong minded person would be someone who is stable and is able to handle situations that come their way in mature ways with an open mind. Because a strong minded person is not easily manipulated once they take the time to know God and the truth.
James 1: 2-5 ‘My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patienc. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing. If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given to them.’
Hebrews 12:1 ‘Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily best us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us’.
So to conclude this area of possessing a strong mind it is very important and will help you to overcome the devils tricks and those he sends your way, to throw you of guard. A sound mind that is willing to learn daily from mistakes made, gain knowledge and understanding to build wisdom. IITimothy 1:7 ‘For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of sound mind.’
EVERYDAY U SHOULD WORK ON CHANGES TO BE EVEN BETTER AS U GO ALONG.. IF YOU STILL DO OLD THINGS, STILL TAKE PLEASURE IN SIN AND DONT KNOW GOD PROPERLY CHANGE WILL BE VERY VERY SLOW AND RESULTS WILL TAKE LONGER TO HAPPEN.. TURN TO GOD ALLOW HIM HELP U BETTER YOURSELF FOR A BETTER TOMORROW
I hope the words shared in this post have been beneficial and encouraging to those who have read it. Father for those who don’t believe in themselves, or lack the courage to move forward and let you in fully, please I ask you to help them and remind them that they can and will make it, that we are all precious women created by you for a purpose. May all the beautiful people reading this be blessed and highly favoured in Jesus mighty name I pray. Amen and Amen.